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anonymous
writes:Even though my boyfriend knows that I am a vegetarian for animal welfare reasons, he has accepted a job offer and gone tonight chicken catching in a chicken factory. I was appalled at his decision and asked him not to go (It is a cash job for one night only..he's not desperate for money). Do you think he lacks respect for me? I am very hurt and upset and told him not to come to my place tonight after work. I think I might leave him because of it...am I over reacting ??Wallaroo
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): i am also a catcher so from this exprience i answer this.i am a long time catcher fulltime for many years. Sometimes my dear people try new things and and sometimes they are good at it, and then they can earn more than day shift. be happy that he is willing to go and earn some money. sometimes it's the best a man can earn. the only way i can make more is to go to mines, which wwould take me away from my family. commercal chicken growing and catching is very humainly done.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 You have to realize, that in this day and age, sometimes money is money. We don't all like our jobs, and you shouldn't make it worse for him.
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reader, stina +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Hi there Anonymous,
While I don't think he disrespects you really, I think you ought to think about whether this is the kind of person who you want to be with.
I had a similar experience -- I used to be a strict vegetarian and actually dated a butcher. After about two weeks I couldn't deal with it anymore and found someone with the same values that I had. I was much happier.
I would talk with your boyfriend before you decide anything, though. See what other differences you two have that could put a permanent wedge between the both of you. This one is a biggie, though, and if he keeps working in any kind of slaughterhouse, I think it'd be best if you parted ways. Those places are awful and I can't imagine you two lasting much longer if he comes home smelling like those kinds of places among other things.
I know breaking up with someone because of animals/vegetarianism sounds stupid to some people, but I totally identify with you. I don't think you're overreacting - I think you're making a wise decision to think if you two can last with such a different set of values.
Take care.
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