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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I am a lady of 44 years and am madly in love with a married man. My love is immense. Even he loves me to the core but he says he has his responsibilities. And moreover he is in Delhi and am in Bangalore. We met only once and made love. We cant be without each other. I told him to come to bangalore but he says he cant do it leaving his family. He wants both, his family and Me. Is there any solution for this? Please suggest something coz i dont want to lose him. He my WORLD!!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Move to Delhi and be his sloppy seconds. And when you are old and gray you can look back on your wasted life while he and the wife hold their grandkids on their knees.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 The only solution here is too get past this. It is way too selfish to break up a Family for your own selfish desires. Stay away from him for his families own good and possibly yours
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reader, DV1 +, writes (29 May 2007):
 The only thing that you can do is move on. It's selfish to be willing to break up a marriage and/or family for your own needs. Find someone who isn't married.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (29 May 2007):
 You maybe madly in love, but it is time your heart came second to what your head should be telling you. Men are not difficult creatures to decipher...their actions speak much louder than their words. You have only met once so you don't really know each other that well - the infatuation maybe terribly exciting but you still need to have a proper relationship to decide if you really love each other. You must realise that if he is sleeping with you while married, he would do the same to you with some other woman. If he wanted to leave his wife, he would have packed his bags and be on your doorstep right now. You cannot control other people but you can control you - it comes down to a question of pride and personal dignity. Personally I wouldn't settle for being someone's mistress as I could never be that good at sharing no matter how much I thought I loved them. You may think you love him but a bit more self-love wouldn't hurt in this situation - like yourself enough not to settle for such an arrangement and don't invite this man back into your bed unless he is prepared to show you some commitment.
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