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writes:ive been with my partner for two years we live together and have a 8 month daughter. he keeps texing a girl he used to have sex with he got her pregnant once but she got rid of it. they split up on good terms but ive read the texts and he is always saying "i cant stop thinking about you i miss you" and she sends back "luv you" and keeps asking how our baby is. the worst thing is he keeps using our daughter in it by saying she sends you big hugs and kisses. he says he loves me and if we were not togther he would not go to her he says he loves her as a friend and always would. he does not hide his phone or anything like that im just uncomfortable with it.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (12 May 2010):
 I have an ex-boyfriend who has became one of my closes friends....but him and my husband became better friends. It works give it a try, and if it still makes you feel uncomfortable then tell him that he needs to break contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): Hello,
Exes are exes for a reason there suppossed to be part of our pasts. He still obviously has unresolved feelings for this woman. He should not be texting any woman I can't stop thinking about you.
Tell him to stop now as its very disrespectful to you and your feelings. If he's unable to stop then its time to do some serious thinking about your relationship.
Good luck
;D
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 May 2010):
 As long as he is happy and treats you right , you will need to learn to live with this extra baggage of his.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (12 May 2010):
 I think I would be uncomfortable about the friendship too since they have history together. I feel sorry for the other girl to be honest - an abortion is never an easy thing and now her ex has a child with another woman. I don't think you can stop him communicating with this woman but one tactic could be to befriend her. Rather than treating her like enemy no.1 it would be wise to at least try to get to know her as you can gather rather more from the nature of their relationship and their respective feelings then. If the relationship is innocent then there should be no reason why she would not wish to know you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2010): That is not normal behaviour from a man who is in a relationship,he is just holding on to you until she or something better comes along,end it now before you get hurt
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