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writes:Sorry for the length but it's all relevant.A year ago this guy asked me out but I was unavailable so I said no. He kept asking why and after so many messages asking why not I just ignored him. Six months later i decided to contact him, just say hello. He replied to me and was really nice. He agreed to catch up. Then he ignored me. After I asked what was up he said he was seeing someone, so didn’t want to make things awkward, but still wanted to catch up.So we saw each other twice (as friends) and were then supposed to see a movie (which was his suggestion). He then started avoiding me again. I avoided him back, and after two weeks he came back, apologized, said he had stuff to deal with and wanted to see me again (the stuff was breaking up with the girlfriend).So we started dating and it was all fine. We got along really well. Then a friend of mine told me how his ex still thinks the two of them are together. I asked him about this and he said they’re not, although the ex still texts him sometimes, but he hasn’t seen her since they broke up. I recently met some of his friends, he met some of mine and our parents are good friends too.One Saturday after dinner we went for a walk on the beach. Up to this point we had only kissed a few times, but never really got too close. This night however we got a bit closer (just making out) and when I asked him jokingly if he liked me he told me that he’s always liked me, but now that he’s getting to know me he likes me even more. The next day we exchanged some flirty texts and he was supposed to let me know when he’s free the coming week to go out. He never messaged me.On Mon night a friend of mine told me to check his ex’s profile on Facebook. That Sun night the ex changed her relationship status to single and removed all photos of the two of them. I thought that he must have had a talk with her and told her that it’s totally over. Then two hours later she lists herself as in a relationship with him and posts all the photos back up. The next day he comments on one of the photos saying he likes it. I got real angry and sent him a text asking why he hasn’t been in contact, and telling him that I want to talk as something’s been bothering me. No reply. (He doesn’t know that I can see her profile – and he has refused to add me on Facebook – keeps saying he never gets to it – but I know he’s been on it).Wednesday I decide to send another message. I tell him I thought we had a nice time on Sat, that I am confused and that I like him and thought he liked me too. No reply.Fri I get a reply from him, he apologizes for not calling or messaging, says he had a reason for it. Says the reason wasn’t that he didn’t like me, and says that every time we went out he had fun. Then he tells me if I want to talk to him to let him know.This message is confusing but it seems he doesn’t want to see me anymore. So I say let’s talk in person. He replies immediately and suggests the coming Sun night. I say that’s fine and let me know what time. I have not heard from him since. I will not contact him at all, he knows where to find me.What the hell is going on here? It has been a week since that last message and I am trying to forget this idiot and move on. Not knowing what happened is making moving on really hard and I can’t stop analyzing everything.I really thought he liked me…so I am really confused as to what happened to make him do this out of the blue. Any opinions are welcome. L
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Hi there,
I think this guy is a jerk. Just stay away from him my dear. You will get over it, just need sometime.
That guy does not deserve your love. Do not waste anymore time waiting or texting him. Its not worth it my dear.
Move on and I wish you fine Mr. Right soon.
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reader, CharmmyKitty  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 He's definitely jerking you around. Texting doesn't take that much effort, no matter what you have going on, and I think those huge gaps in communication are a clear indicator that he's not that into you.Looks like things were rocky in his relationship, and he was just trying to secure you as a safety net.Don't waste anymore time on this one.
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reader, whymustyouloveme +, writes (7 August 2008):
Let me just say that he's acting like a typical jerk and frankly you deserve way better than him. He probably had a few issues with his girlfriend and was using you as a rebound to make her jealous or something. It wasn't fair to you, but let me tell you if he comes crawling back asking to "catch up" and hang, he's not worth it. It's just a cruel game he's playing with you. I bet you will find someone better. Besides it's summer. It's all about finding a great romance or a fling. Have some fun and forget about him. Chances are your real prince charming is out there waiting to steal your heart. So get out there and have the best time of your life.
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