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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Its been one year since the break up occurred, we dated for 1.5 years (High School/College Lover's) and during this time I have tired focusing on myself. I feel great after my runs and lifting weight's. I am in the best shape in my life, and I have gained more friends then I have in one year that I had before my relationship with my ex girlfriend. But when I am a lone and have nothing more to do at night. I sit at home and I can't help but think about her and what happened. Now its usually not bad, but me and her are 'friends' for say. She is with a new boy friend, she has been dating this guy for 6-7 months now. I have compared myself to him, and well this guy is similar to the way I was, but has more time for a relationship, more money then I do (I pay for my own schooling). I know I don't have a lot of time for a relationship (I need the time to focus on my degree). Reason why we broke up(what she said):-I still care for you, but I just don't really love you anymore. We don't have enough time for each other and its not fair for us to be together and that she just wants to go exploring in this world right now before settling down with a guy.This is what has happened/been said after our break up, despite her having a new boyfriend:-Me and my ex are friends, we still go for walks with each other and spend only one on one time together. She has admitted she does not want to lose me. She has kept in contact with me, I don't mind actually I enjoy her company. But again I have day's where my emotions are out of whack and I don't know if I am jealous of her boy friend or that I am missing our relationship. What would you guys do?
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reader, boogie4 +, writes (13 October 2010):
Don't be jealous young friend. You will be fine. If she actually said "she doesn't love you anymore" its OK. It's easier said (or written) than done, but after a while of going through the lonesome loathing, you will be mad with yourself for being that hung up on her. Most importantly, DON'T lose her as a friend...that's a GOOD thing. That means she still wants to tell you things thats going on in her life, and by doing that...YOU are still a part of her life. So indulge that friend thing.
So I recommend this: be her friend, yet start dating other people. Slowly, but surely. I guarantee the next time you two are having your "one on one" time, and you casually let it slip you had a good time with "Vanessa" at bowling, you will get a reaction. Based on that reaction, that's how you will know where you are, and therefore proceed. If she is genuinely happy for you, you know then she's really not in love with you. If it's more concern and she's curious...she's still in there buddy.
NOW...If it's been 6-7 months she's been into it with someone else, then your relationship with her is basically old news.
So...go read today's headlines!! There's plenty of new stories every day LOL!
You'll be fine!
Hope this helps my friend.
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