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writes:I am a 20 year old pre op transexual. I consider myself to be a women and live 24/7 as one. I am 17 months into hormone replacement therapy and hopefully if I can save up enough money I intend to get SRS, sex reassignment surgery. Whenever I meet a man I always tell them upfront that I am a transexual. The problem I have is when I go out on dates 99 percent of the time the guy I am with will, by nights end, ask me to or expect me to give him oral sex. Most of the time I do submit to their wishes but I am starting to feel like a slut. I think telling men upfront that I am transexual causes me to draw from a limited pool for dates. I am wondering if anyone could give me some advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2011): Thank you so much for the advice. I actually read it along with two of my girlfriends the other day. They both had different opinions. One said that I am out on dates 4 or 5 nights a week, getting wined and dined and if she was in my shoes she would not mind giving a blow job for the few minutes it takes. My other friend said your advice was good and said I should completely change my M.O. and I should even go out to another town where no one knew me. I agreed with her and you. We both went out last night clear across town. She was with her boy friend and I went with a blind date that she set up for me. One negative on my part was I did not tell him my birth gender but we went dutch on the date and there was no sex going to happen. At the end of the night he asked if I would go out with him again.(no mention of sex...yeah) Before we go out again I will let him know about my birth gender though.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Just as you set the record straight in terms of your sexual/gender identity, set the record straight about considering yourself a classy lady and will not X on the first date (if you say kiss, instead of blow job then they won't suspect that was your previous MO or that you're assuming every man wants a blowjob at the end of the night)is that. If they really care about you and want you for more than a blow job they'll respect the boundaries you've set up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): I think the type of men you are dating are men that are attracted to transexuals and the major part of that attraction is getting sex from people in your situation. It is sort of a taboo sex thing I suspect. Maybe you should try not telling guys that you may date that you are transexual and see if it ends up different after a date.
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