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*Bubbles
writes:I am always feeling angry and sad with myself. I sometimes sit here and I cry because I feel angry with myself for not knowing what to do with my life or career. I am always on the internet doing career quizzes trying to find which career is right for me; then I get frustrated because I am back to square one. I feel like a failure because right now I am not working and I only have allowance to depend on.I am tired of feeling this way I am trying to find ways to feel and be positive but the fear and anger was comes back and I get upset and cry. I'm tired I'm just tired I need some help; I have noone who I can talk to that will understand me.I am alone with this and it makes me cry and sad.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (9 October 2010):
Your community should have resources to help you with this, career counsellors and what not. It might help to have someone to talk to, and they can help guide you in your search.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Figuring out an ideal career for yourself is an impossible task. Every career has good points and bad points, just as each person is different. No job will be perfectly suited to your talents and abilities. You will have to work hard at whatever you do to be good at it. That is the only way you will have the ideal job, by working at it. Of course you have to start somewhere and it is so hard to decide when there is so much choice out there and not much guidance. You need to take small steps. Don't pressure yourself to find your ideal job right now. Many people change careers several times in their lives before they find what they are really good at. SO don't worry about it.The main thing is to get started doning something, anything, that you can work hard at and improve your skills in. Doing any job will help you grow and give you a purpose and self confidence, as well as a solid income. Rather than doing internet quizzes, get yourself down to either the job centre or connections(a career centre for young people). There will be trained people there who can advise you much better than a compter questionnaire. Those are just a guide and can't provide real answers hun. Book yourself in for a consultation with a careers advisor. If they are good at their job, they can help you make decisions to get to where you want to be, career wise. Do you have any qualifications? Could you take a college or University course in something that you are interested in? It doesn't matter if its not the ideal career for you, it would be a starting point and proof to an employer that you can put your mind to something and achieve what you set out to do.I wish you luck and believe me you are not alone! It is very hard to decide on a career path. I am 24 now and nearly finnished a Uni course. I've learnt a lot but I don't know for sure where I'm going after this! But you just have to try things out and if a jobs not right for you, you can always retrain or apply for another one!
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Yea im in exactly the same position that you are in and I know its not fun at all and ontop of that my GF of 6 years left me and its probably because of just that reason...
So you can imagen the confusion that just immediately kicked me against the head.
BUT I went and I got a workout program" THIS help allot since you think about things while working out like jogging or cycling etc" and Then I looked at my options again.
I realized that WELL I dont have anything accept friends who are keeping me here so what the hell Ill just leave for Europe and go study there...Better then doing nothing and it gave me a sense of direction again..something to work for.Although it might sound like WHOW what a big step to just decide n that quickly but its really not since i have been thinking about it for a while even in my relationship.
Hope this help.
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 October 2010):
 What is it about change that you're afraid of? Do you feel as if you'll fail if you take a plunge and try something? I feel you're afraid of making a wrong choice, as if that choice will cause you to further be and angry and cause you to continue punishing yourself. What do you feel driven to do? Are you good with people or would rather have a position where you didn't have to communicate much with the public? I want you to think of 4 personalities you have that would be a benefit in your work place. Then take that and figure out, as I said, to be around others or not (i.e. customer relations) Also think about what would make you feel satisfied. If the work you do helps others, such as in counseling, or some other like avenue, or do you feel you'd be satisfied building or creating something.
Your young, and confused, which is okay. It's not wrong and you are far from being alone. I want you to think about finding a starting point, and that it's okay that where you start is not where you'll ultimately end up. It's a way to get your feet wet and test the waters. Then take the plunge and find something that fits that area. Most of us have been through different avenues in developing who we are and what we'll do for a living. Hardly anyone picks a career and makes that perfect choice. You need to start somewhere, and with every experience you will be closer to where you need to be.
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