I am thinking of a divorce, I'm fed up with the lies!

A female age 51-59, *oosiergirl500 writes:

I'm seriously thinking of divorcing my husband. I'm tired of all the lies and deceit. Back in April I checked out an email account that both my husband and I have access to but I hadn't looked at in over a year. I was sickened by what I saw. My husband and his (female) boss have been sending each other pornography. My husband was attaching comments that were very vulgar. His boss, who is married but apparently is bi-sexual, had sent my husband nude pictures of herself and her girlfriend. My husband made some nice comments on the pics stating that he's like to do somethings there. I called him on the emails and he told me that it was no big deal and I'm the only person who has a problem with it. After fighting over it for a week he finally deleted all the email/porn he'd been saving. Then last month when he returned from a week long business trip I found very graphic and intimate sex graphics between him and his boss that had taken place while he was out of town. They chatted for quite some time and I'm sure that they both left the conversation very satisfied if you know what I mean. I called him on it and he said he was sorry and has never laid a hand on her. He says that they were just talking and things just got out of hand. I did send her an email and told her to leave my husband alone. According to my husband when he saw her at work she didn't speak to him for a couple of days and also then told him that she didn't like my sticking my nose in their business. My husband is also very immature. You would never guess that he is 40 years old. He and his best guy friend also work together (they are both middle-management). They text each other about how they're lusting over the college interns. I'm always seeing things about how they were late to a meeting because they couldn't see past their hard on and how fabulous "shower toy" and "yummy boobs" are looking today. My husband is fully aware that I know about all of this and his reply is that it's just a company joke. I've caught him in a few other lies as well. I'm so sick of this crap. We have both been to see a counselor individually and have a joint session scheduled for next week. Honestly, I don't even want to go with him. Am I making too much out of nothing?

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