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writes:Hi. I am a 28 year old female. I have been in a relationship for 9 months with a married man. This relationship started off with just a simple kiss and has escalated to a lot more, including love. He has been with his wife for approximately 8 years and he has a son. He is unhappy in his marriage but says that he stays in the marriage because he wants to be there for his son. Do you believe that this is true or do you think he just wants to have the best of both worlds....me and the wife? Being with him is like a guilty pleasure for me. I love him and love being with him, but I feel guilty every time I’m with him because I know that what we’re doing is wrong. How do I stop this relationship without hurting him or myself? I don’t want him to leave his wife because I feel like I will be the cause of the divorce and I don’t want to be a part of that. I also don’t think its fair for me to be living this lie and being with a married man and not being able to make my own life, like have my own kids or husband. What do I do? Should I just keep taking chances or just completely stop this relationship and move on? How can I be strong and end this when I truly love him? Help!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2010): At one time in my youg life I was the other woman too. It's funny when your in that kind of a situation, your blind to the facts. Fact # 1..He is a cheater and a liar.Fact#2 (and harder to admit). Your no better than he is. I am not trying to be funny or excuse my past behavior when I say that I plead temporary insanity during that time in my life. I was out of my mind to think it would end well. It did not, and I still have very guilty feelings, years later, over it. Run girl. find a single man of your own, and don't share him, nor comprimise your own self-esteem any longer.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (5 September 2010):
Everyone deserves a partner that they don't need to share with others. That's why I would never consent to being the other woman. I would simply not be satisfied with not being able to have my love come home to me, sleep with me, go out with me, and be free to be there for me. He's supposed to have all of this with his wife. And if he wants to have it with you, he should leave his wife.
My advice to you is just to leave. Find someone who is single and see if you can have a real relationship there. Because there's no happy ending to this story. Either he continues to string you along and you get a shadow of a relationship. Or he leaves his wife for you, and you're left being the homewrecker and being with a cheating man that you can't trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): How would you feel if you were his wife?
You need to give him an ultimatum, he tell his wife or else you can do it anonymously for him. It is simply not fair on the wife and son. This man is a LIAR!
If he wants to be with you he should not be going home to his wife every night.
There is no going back for you now, his marriage is already over.
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reader, rubaab +, writes (3 September 2010):
hello daer !
please leave him. the most time u will spend with him u will be hurt. he will never divorce his wife not because of his san because he will pay lot of money to his wife and also child support. he is not good person . why he dont think about your future.if he can chaet his wife how he will be honest with you.you dont have any future with him . you are 28 so please dont waste your time with the one who is not sincer with you.my friend had same situation finally she left him after six years. she got nothing from that relationship . the only thing she got was pain and to be alone. he has happily married life also a sincer and honest girl friend. just to remove his fursteration and for sex. please dont think me wrong but be honest with your self. few days of pain is better then all life in pain. there will be some one honest for you. take care
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reader, Plexi +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Of course you like being with him...........I presume that he is very nice and treats you well. He is not being himself, he puts on this act to feel better about himself and to ensure he keeps you around until he is ready to call it off.While he is with you he feels like he is "on vacation' away from his real life. What you feel is not love hun, you are addicted to him because he makes you feel good. Married med never leave their families, if he had just a wife then maybe there would be a chance of leaving her for you but he has a son as well, he will not leave them to be with you. You are a fantasy and a distraction for him, that's it. You are right, you will never find real love with a good man and have a family of your own if you continue to be his mistress. You don't have to be rude, just disappear out of his life.........don't answer his texts, emails, calls, etc and erase his phone cumber..........cut all contact with this man! Men like him can ruin a woman's life
Be strong hun!
HUGS
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