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anonymous
writes:I have a problem- i have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and i still have doubts! he knos how i feel and believes ill always have doubts and thinks we are good together. I am scared because i duno if hes the one, and its been so long!! Is there always the one? i was young when we met so a friend told me thats normal as i havnt got much experience with others...bt everyone else says i should kow by now, and sometimes i agree. If i dnt think about us getting married or having kids (which he wants) i can be hapy with him day by day- but as soon as i think about marriage it freaks me out so much. I do love him and he loves me, but i am not sure in the way i want him to. We have been through so much together though and would be too hard to end, and would make me worried ive made a mistake.We live together now and im fine with that, its just the future that scares me, and i am not sure i would feel taken care of with him.Thanks for the advice! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for ur answer, the main reasons really is the way he makes me feel, such as i dnt feel particularly safe or taken care of, even tho he tries his intentions r good- i think we have communication issues, i want us 2 b best friends bt i cnt seem to tell him ev- he wants to move to another country bt without my friends n family around me, i duno if hes enough...
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 You're complicating things.. 7 years is a BIG TIME.. People who don't love can actually fall in love with each other without any reason if they stay together for so many years..
Why does it freak you out when you think of marriage.? Is he active with other girls.? What exactly is wrong in your relation.? Please throw some light..
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