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writes:My bf's hollier than thou attitude makes me vomit! He's never wrong even when he is wrong. He blames me for everything. And he never apologizes. Like for example this morning I was taking a shower while he was in the kitch. All of a sudden he was ranting and slamming stuff. I ran out the bathroom and milk was all over the floor. First thing he says is See what the f*ck you did? I was like wtf! He started hollering that he dropped it because he shouldn't have had to wait on me to make his cereal. I'm ready to leave his ignorant ass! Why does he think he's never at fault for anything? I'm finding myself looking at other men. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dirk Pitt  +, writes (12 December 2010):
So he makes a drama out of a small little issue, needs to blame someone else, and expects you to wait on him hand and foot, ie making his cereal?
This guy's either taking mind altering drugs/steroids, or he has serious issues! Either way it sounds bad. If he can make spilt milk into a crisis, what's he going to do when a real one pops up?
Get out of there, get safe, and then tell him he really needs help. And be careful when he says 'I'm sorry, I'm all OK now, please come back." Don't jump in where angels fear to tread!
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reader, Philothea  +, writes (12 December 2010):
Find a way to talk with him about it when he's in a good mood, and try to gently allow him to see himself. He may be frustrated over something else happening in his life with which he feels he has little or no control. Has he lost his job? Is he in danger of losing his job or does he strongly dislike his work? Is he physically ill? Make sure that when you talk with him, you start off by telling him how much you love him and care about him, and that you want him to be happy again. Let him face the fact that he is unhappy but that he is projecting onto you. Expectations need to be realistic, frequent ad hoc ranting is not acceptable as it displays disrespect, and you are there to help him with what is really bothering him but you aren't to be made a verbal punching bag.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 It's lame enough to cry over spilled milk, but to blame someone who was in the shower for milk that they themselves spilled...?
Sounds like he's in the running for "douche-bag of the year" award.
You're starting to look at other men... and I don't blame ya.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (12 December 2010):
 When he goes out, pack up your bags and leave. He doesnt love you because men that love you don't act like this. You are a very strong woman, I know you can do it. When you've gone and away from there text him and tell him to 'have a nice life!'
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