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anonymous
writes:I am scared to ask boys out as i am afraid they will say no. because i am fat and ugly. I don't know what to do. I always have this same dream about going out with this boy i really fancy and we end up kissing in the end. but to make matters worse. I have never pulled.It's sooo annoying and it gets me down. I just wanna ask him out but i dont think he is interested.What should i do?Lovee Anonymous xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): first you need to work on your self esteem
if you feel beautifull it will show and people will be warmed by your warm personality and friendlyness. why not start gaining a friendship with this boy?
If you feel fat why not start a diet or exercise? your self confident can always be improved by improvisation. Makeup, and treating yourself will help this. Look how different others look with and without weightloss, makeup and clothes which suite their figure. If you are large where darker clothes which will give the appearance of a slimmer body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): First of all, you are extremely young to begin actually dating, but your fear is exactly the same that causes reluctance for boys (or men) - fear of rejection. It's entirely normal but often unjustified. If one is rejected, whether asking for a date or a dance, we just have to accept it, forget about it and move on. There are a lot of fish in the sea.
But at your age, I think a safer and better arrangement is to include him in an activity with several other kids. Go bowling, or plan a party or picnic or something, and invite him to join the fun in a group. If he rejects the offer for no apparent reason, you shouldn't feel that he is rejecting you so personally. Maybe he just ain't so much fun . . .
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reader, Landie  +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Don't worry about asking boys out you still young. Enjoy your life now.
I think i'm ugly too but amazingly there's a guy who actually thinks I'm sweet and sexy. I'm sure there is a guy out there who thinks you as a person is amazing. It might not happen now but it wll one day.
when you least expect it you will find a guy who likes you. IF you wanna ask this guy out try it there is nothng you can loose.
Good luck
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reader, LouLee +, writes (30 December 2007):
 This boy that you want to ask out......has he shown that he likes you?? Cause i wouldn't ask a boy out if i didnt think he was gonna say yes, if i knew there was a chance because he flirts with me or whatever i would....If you know he likes you then you need to make him like you so much that you believe that he will not reject you. Then there is no need to be scared!! When that time is right be brave and ask him, even if you do get rejected it isnt the end of the world now is it? good luck hunni x
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reader, robynnex +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Hey .
Everyones scared to ask boy's out no matter what age.
Im sure your not fat and ugly. you have to work on your self confidence.
If you really like this boy i
you should ask him out.Or if you dont want to do it straight away invite him to the cinema and out with you and your friends and then you could do it.
Dont worry about kissing it just comes naturallly to you.good luck
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