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writes:Hi folk, I dated a guy for two and half years. We were very close that I thought it will end up in marriage. He neither buy me a gift nor gives me enough money which i don’t care. After a year in relationship, one day I took his phone then I notice that he was flirting with another girl on the phone, so I approach him about we talk about and every was just fine. I sign up for and I realize that they are still dating cos what they have exchanging on both Facebook wall messages, so I decided to talk to him about it, after the approach he went to update his on Facebook that he was in a relationship with this same girl I am talking about, so I decided to move on then after some months of break up, he came to me begging for us to come back but I can see that he still cares and is in love with the girl. Now what should I do please helpppp.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 I must ask you to clarify these things:
What do you mean he didn't give you enough money?
And what do you mean by flirting? Did he admit to flirting with her, and was it obvious, or did you read meaning into a friendly conversation?
What do you mean by him adding this other woman as his girlfriend... were you broken up at that point? Did he do it as a mean trick on you to provoke you while you and him were still together? Or did he actually go and double date the two of you? Did you break up before or after him adding her as his girlfriend, as was it serious or a mean prank that he added her?
How many months were you broken up, and during this time did you meet in person or were you physically intimate with each other, or was there no contact?
If he still cares and loves with other girl, why does he want to be with you? Test his seriousness by giving it time. If you truly care for him as well you need to trust him if you want to have a relationship. Trust, unfortunately, seems to have gone out the window quite some time ago. It is uncertain if it can be rebuilt. If you do attempt at this relationship again you need to take it very slow, to make sure he is sincere about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Tell him to get lost and walk away - he's lied to you, used you and now after leaving you for some other girl wants to come back cos its not worked out.Sheeeesh!
It's his problem not yours, there are plenty of men out there who will treat you with the respect you deserve and make you happy
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): If he came back, he must have regretted what he did, but still if you give him another chance, don't give 100% of you to him for some time... Just give him some time to show you what he really is up to. If you see that he continues with that girl you should really "throw him out".
I think that he deserves another chance if you really love him or loved him back then, otherwise, just forget about him.
Hope I helped, even though I'm kinda new in relationships... :) Take care!
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