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writes:I have meet a very geniune guy,we have been communicating via the internet, sms and phone calls, we got on very well, as we live far apart,5 months later we arranged to meet, the entire weekend was like fire works, two days later, he travelled all the distance again and we had another marvellous 3 days. A few days later he told me by mail, he thinks we should take it slower, and not rush, remain friends and get to know each othr better! At first I was dissapointed, now I am confused, however, we are still in close contact and will be meeting next week again, but I have reservations about this ....I don't feel to comfortable with this .....am I jsut being sceptical?
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 I would think part of you thinks he thought it wasnt that brilliant and he has made a mistake. It could be the case or it could be he had such an overwhelming rush of emotion for you it has scared him. Give him the time he needs and agree to slow it down a bit and just see what happens. There is not a lot more you can do, if you push him or nag him as you want more it will only make him retreat further.
Just bide your time and good luck x
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (5 June 2008):
 There are two ways of rushing into things two much too soon for you. 1. physically or 2. Emotionally and knowing too much about eachother's life story etc.
Not sure which of the two or both you are referring to.
Doesn't sound like there is any harm in it. You both need to protect yourselves early on to prevent yourself getting hurt.
You will know when you next meet if the vibe is right. Are the silances relaxing or awkward etc?
The most important thing is to enjoy a relationship and not to feel rushed either physically or emotionally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008): It was probably a bit 'whizz bang' for him and when he stepped back he realised that he wanted to cherish the introductory period and not spoil it, so he has decides to slows things down a bit. Agree to go along with this, but if things dont improve in a months time, then have a chat with him and ask him what the hell is going on.
take care
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reader, rcn  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Trust feelings. Remember the saying "believe 50% of what you read and none of what you hear?" Your feelings are much more accurate. Feelings can work as a positive and can also work to warn you. They don't lie. In your life, you've seen so much with the opposite sex and heard so much and read so much, maybe even had a few experiences. Your subconscious picks up everything you experience. These feelings come from the huge amount of knowledge your subconscious holds. When something doesn't seem right, even though you may not think about it, your subconscious sends the signal in the way of feelings.
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