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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, and I really do love him! I am just worried about the fact that he isn't ready to settle down and may never be! We have had our ups and downs just like any relationship ever does! He actually just got homem from being gone for a few months for work, and things are actually going good for the most part right now! I have heard from people that he wasn't completely truthful while he was gone. I am not going to lie, I do have trust issues with him because of past problems we have had! The other problem is there is this other guy that I have been talking to just on the phone that I am starting to get serious feelings for! We have so much in common and make eachother laugh all the time! He is also ready to settle down and find that someone special to start a family with! He wants me to come see him, but I keep saying no because I wouldn't want to do that to my boyfriend! The other hard part of this is that this other guy is friends with my boyfriend but lives in a whole nother state, and they really don't talk very much at all anymore! The question I guess is what should I do? Like I said my boyfriend and I do have a lot in common and a lot of problems that we both have said we want to try and work on! The only thing is I don't know truthfully if I could ever not wonder is he cheating on me, or what is he doing when I am not around! I really want make things work because we have put so much into this, but at the same time I really do want to see where things could possibly go with this other guy! I am so confused and need all the help I can get to try and figure this out! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess I really don't need the help of a lot of people after all! Thank you to the person that did answer my question! Everything has worked out as of right now and I am a very happy girl!
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reader, canttoleratebs +, writes (4 August 2010):
If you already have trust issues there is really no way that your going to go into another relationship and not bring these issues along with you. As for this other guy living in another state, how would you expect to be fully trusting in that relationship and not only that, those two guys are friends it doesnt matter that they hardly talk, thats a line you just dont cross. If you and your boyfriend dont make it just find someone else, its better than creating a name for yourself. It's just not worth it. Good Luck
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