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writes:So here is the scenario. My wife and I have been together for more then 8 yrs.When we got together she already had 2 children from artificial insemination, so when I came into the picture there was no dad to have to compete with. It started hot and heavy as she was 39 and I was 26. After a few months together we found out she was pregnant with a beautiful baby boy.The problem is NOW she is as cold as ice. Sex maybe Sunday morning and none during the week, if we are rushed there is no sex for the week. I am absolutely in love with the mother of my boy, but can't seem to get over the fact that I never get any loving. She will pat me on the ass, grab my crotch, and other flirtatious things, but when I try to get her in the mood I get nothing. We have tried to talk about this before but she always gets upset or mad so I get no where. I have recently started to LOOK at ads on Craigslist just to look, but I am really thinking of responding to one of these ads if i can't get her to make love to me soon. I am at a cross road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): Sex is an important part of a young man's life. Tell your wife that you are not happy with the situation and you are willing to work with her to change it. If she refuses, then at least you gave her a chance.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (12 June 2010):
You need to be able to talk about it. What do you suppose makes her mad? Does she get defensive? Maybe she feels blamed or attacked or that she's letting you down?
Start a conversation by establishing common goals. Hopefully your sexual satisfaction is a common goal. Is she sexually unsatisfied like you are? Hopefully her satisfaction is a common goal as well.
You have to keep the conversation productive. Do you eventually start yelling at each other? Be very deliberate in your use of a quiet voice and a soothing tone. It does wonders. If she gets defensive, carefully focus your words on yourself, not her. Start sentences with words like "I feel," "I think," and "I want." Never start sentences with words like "You always," "You never," or "You should".
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): you need to read about some men who haven't had sex for like 8 years, then put your problems into perspective.
i can't believe your about to cheat on your child's mother, you need to grow up.
ffs, just tell her, you will regret cheating, especially when you realise it wasn't worth it.
TALK TO HER!!! tell her how you feel
she deserves better than you, you've already taken this too far, but you can stop it NOW. if your willing to cheat you obviously don't love her as much as you'd like to think you do.
grow up.
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