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*ellybeans20009
writes:Basically, I have a crush on this new friend in my life. He has really great energy and etc. Whenever we're together we have a good time and we have a few things in common. From the things I know about him now from our long conversations and frequent interactions, he is a good person. However, I realize that it's been less than a month that I've known him and there is so much more to find out about each other. The thing is, I am almost 90% sure my feelings are returned, he likes me back.I guess I'm just tormented on how to approach this. I have a good idea of how I work. I am a really sensitive person, and I have this gut feeling that is telling me I should not let myself get intimate with anyone until we are on the track to marriage. Otherwise I will hurt myself in the end. No this is not some religious pact nor is this a promise I made to my parents. This is a completely personal revelation on the basis of how I work and past experience.This makes things complicated, because I also do not want to throw away my youth. This makes it almost impossible to make dating fun or even possible. I almost don't know what to do with myself. Probably the right answer would be to just let loose and see how things turn out with him but with caution. However, my situation will be really complicated next year. I will no longer be living in the US. I will be living in another country (a decision I've made before I met him), and that is this new friend's home country. They are really strict with their work habits and I imagine if I miss too many classes because of emotional trauma from a relationship, I will lose my job and end up with no place to stay. This is why I am hesitant to starting anything during my time there.Advice?
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reader, jellybeans20009 +, writes (15 November 2011):
jellybeans20009 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's really not the point of my question and I do not particularly appreciate your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): Dating is a discovery period and you have a good few months to date slowly before you decide to have sex. I think you are putting the cart before the horse if he hasn't asked you on a date yet. The questions you are asking are concerns you may have after dating 3 months and both of you are wanting to move forward into a serious relationship. Right now he is a friend who has not asked you out yet and may never.
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