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writes:I'm scared to leave my husband...I know it's the right thing to do but I just don't know what will happen.I'm scared of the outcome. He's in the army to we live far away from anyone. I've got nowhere to go I have my 6 year old who has had to move schools 5 times due to the army! I'm just so confused. I have done everything to make this marriage work and he just doesn't care at all :( Reply to this Question
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (4 April 2016):
 I am sorry to hear about this.
I think first off you should talk to an attorney to figure out what your rights are and what sort of help you can get. Most offer initial consultations for free. I am not sure what the laws are in your country but that would likely be the first step. My guess, though, is that you'd be offered spousal and child support and a lawyer would likely be able to sort things out.
Do you have family? If you have immediate family, talk to them and see what sort of support you can get from them.
You will likely need to become gainfully employed. Do you have skills? Can you find an employer that has daycare services?
Finally, being a single mother is probably one of the TOUGHEST things to be. I am not trying to discourage you from your decision, but know that generally a single mother's lifestyle takes a huge hit over being married. I am not sure what sort of situation you are presently in, but know that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Like any life decision, you'll have to look at whether getting out is better than staying.
Either way, start to make a plan and weigh the pros and cons and go from there. But I think your first call should be to an attorney. They usually have the resources to at least set a plan in motion.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (2 April 2016):
 Can't your family help you out? Have you no friends? Essentially, and this is true in general, you need to be able to support yourself. Then you can the find your own place to live - no matter how small. It's ABC.
You will need a solicitor's help to file papers for separation. You can agree the grounds with him or her. After two years separation the divorce should proceed without too many legal costs.
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