I am pushing him away by bringing these issues from my divorce into my new relationship....how do I stop?

A female age 41-50, *enta writes:

I have been seeing this guy for 8 weeks going great we are having fun etc. But I am also at the end of a divorce and I have so many issues I am dealing with. I TRY not to bother my new friend with them. We never talk about my situation. But as of latley he has been a little busy for me and I am jumping the gun thinking he has lost intrest and accused him of seein someone else etc. He told me that I was out of hand and he assured me he wasnt. I saw him on Tues and we had a great time and so me being stupid again tonight asked him what he was doing and he told me he was going home he was tired. So I assume he does not want to see me blah blah its like my mind is playin tricks on me and we are texting back and fourth and I say this" I do know but I just have this strange feeling after we go to the celtics game next week we wont see much of one another after and it isnt on my part" CRAP that did me in!!! He responds wow I dont even know what to say to that. Now I feel bad because I have issues an I am bringing them to him. He told me that I need to keep my insecurties to myself it is unattractive and fustrating. He also told me to find someone else to go to the game that going to the game is tainted. But he did say he still wants to see me?? Now I feel awful. I did say sorry a million times and he told me to give him the weekend to think what he wanted to do. I am so angry at myself and I am going to push him away if I keep acting like this to him. I need to be ok with the fact that he likes me and its ok if he sees me 3 times or 1 time a week he does like me.

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