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writes:well in one of my previous aquestions i was always moody well good news found out why im PREGNANT and we wernt expecting that. my boyfriend thinks i have cheated on him a few times but i HAVNT he wont talk to me about it and he keeps going off the subject i cant figure out what to do or how to think ive never had a kid before and im really scared someone HELP ME Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): i there i was in the same situation he left for most of the pregnancy but came back when the baby was due. if this happens dont take him back i am pregnant again and he wont even talk about it so it will happen again good luck to you jacki
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reader, core_confusion +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Thats excellent news. good luck for the future
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath +, writes (20 January 2008):
 Oh wow that is absolutely amazing :D!
Congratulations and well done!
And it's okay, any time.
I'm proud of you :)
~Krissy [x]
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reader, cyprus_gal +, writes (19 January 2008):
cyprus_gal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thanks for the answers it really helps i spoke to one of my boyfriends friends and he sat us down together and talk to us well it worked my boyfriend was acting like this to get my attention and because he thought i would be angry at him because he may want something that i didnt well he wants the baby and he is getting us a flat in the next few weeks and he wants us to start a proper family so thanks a bunch guys
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reader, core_confusion +, writes (18 January 2008):
I guess this is going to be a pretty delicate subject area but there are a coupple of questions that I think may need answering here. Does your boyfriend want a child or is he using this denial as a chance to try to escape any kind of commitment. Maybe he's scared and doesnt know how to react. It's a pretty big deal after all.
How do you feel about it. Take time to think things through and get them clear in your own head. Think through your options throught to the conclusion of each one. WHat will make you happy? WHat is the sensible thing to do? COuld you do it as a single parent? Decide some answers before you try to make any descisions.
If your partner wont talk to you then maybe a close friend could offer help and support? Perhaps the same friend could also have a word with your boyfriend and encourage him to talk to you. I'm sure he will at some point but I think that pushing him too hard, too quickly may only cause an argument. I'm sure he is probably just as scared as you about the idea of becoming a parent. It seems pretty daunting at first but somehow you just seem to find your way and it always works out. Believe in yourself and your own abilities. Give your partner a little more time to come to you to talk, maybe a few days, then if he hasn't I think you will have to approach him again but be gentle, just talk rather than confronting each other.
If your boyfriend trully believes that you have cheated on him then thats difficult but maybe if you decide to make the committment of having a baby together it wil reassure him. The only thing you can do is put you heart on you sleve, tell him how much he means to you and go from there.
Good luck for the future, and congratulations.
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath +, writes (18 January 2008):
Well do you know why he may think you've been unfaithful?
Are you close to any other guys apart from him or anything?
Maybe he just doesn't want a child at the minute so is trying to make excuses to conver his own back?
Or maybe someone's said something to him that makes him think you've cheated on him when you haven't.
Lets say one of his friends might of seen you with a male friend and got the wrong side of the story.
Do any of his friends or anything dislike you? Because it may also be them causing trouble for that reason, or even if he has an ex as a friend or something.
Try to ask him why he thinks you have cheated on him, and if he goes off the subject demand an answer because you deserve to know..if he doesn't answer your question tell him you can asume otherwise to his thoughts and there's something you don;t know which is why he's avoiding the subject.
I hope i helped, and let me know how things go
~Krissy [x]
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