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writes:I've been with my husband for 7 years now and am pregnant; a few weeks ago I got a phone call saying that he was having an affair with my nephew. My nephew's 18 years old, my husband's 35.I also found out that my husband was spending way too much time with him, and that he was making up any excuse to spend time with him.I told my husband I want to divorce him, but he wants a second chance now. He's never cheated on me before, but this kind of cheating is just unforgivable - it makes me sick thinking about it - cheating with a member of my own family.I am off work for a bit because I'm on maternity leave, although I haven't had the baby yet.I have tried to talk to my husband about it but he just seems to treat it as one big joke insisting "it's a bit of fun!"How could they do this to me? All your help and advice is appreciated - I really can't cope with this, and I just don't know how I'll get out of this situation.Alexandra (33) in Lothian, Scotland, United Kingdom
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): your husband had an affair with your nephew.meaning he had SEX with him. this is not fun and games. you are pregnant plse check out about std's.
if he has had sex with another male, he is in fact bisexual isn't it? can your relationship survive this. your man is so mean and horrible to you. you do not deserve this, your baby certainly doesn't. better to have 1 decent parent than this excuse for a father. if your h/b is bi or gay he must just comeout and admit it. this will save you years of hell. he can deny it all he wants but he had gay tendencies and he will not be satisfied with just 1 encounter. you can bet his shiny boots that he will indulge again.
sorry for being candid. rather you know now than later on.
oh, and also ask your nephew about the fooling around story. i am sure your nephew will have lots more to tell you.
this is a can of worms. the biggest worm here is your h/b
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): This is vile.
Your husband is acting in a vile, disgusting manner.
Leave him, but remember, he has rights to see his child too.
I feel sorry for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): wow, this is a horrible story. not only did your husband cheat, but he had a gay relationship with a family member. you should feel sick and hurt and angry. i would definitely get a divorce. and he said "it's a bit of fun"? either he is in denial or is a total idiot..probably both. your husband is either gay or bi and disrespected you and took advantage of your nephew. he should be punished and you should get as far away from him as you can.
i'm sorry on top of this revelation, you are also pregnant! do you have other close family members who can help you, be there to support you while you divorce from your cad of a husband? you'll need all the support you can get to get you through this trouble.
good luck and i hope you can get back on your feet after this mess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): Wow.
That's really horrible.
I hope you're ok... It's not good to be so stressed when you're close to having a baby.
I can't believe your husband is just shrugging it off the way he is. It doesn't sound like he regrets his actions... And he is being so disrespectful to you and disregarding your feelings entirely.
He thinks cheating on you..." Is a bit of fun".
I don't think anyone deserves that kind of treatment.
Would you ever be able to forgive him and be happy again?
Trust is a huge part marriage and it would be dreadful to be stuck in an unhappy and stressful marriage when the baby comes along. It could end up being a horrible atmosphere for the baby when it was growning up.
If you really want out of this situation then leave your husband. Tell him that what he did was unacceptable and unforgivable... Don't listen to "Give me another chance" or "It's only a bit if fun"... This is your life.
Could you go and live with your parents or close friends unil things have settled?
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