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30-35,
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writes:I am preparing to meet a guy I have been talking to online for 6 years. He's an awesome guy, and I'm not nervous. The only thing is, I know he's at a point in his life where he wants to settle down. He is turning 30 next month. He wants kids, a wife, a family. I have a son myself. I feel that even though I'm young, I want to settle down too. I partied way too hard my whole life, and even after my son was born. I'm tired of living in the fast lane..so my question to you guys is, how do I stop being so insecure about myself? How can I make myself open up again, and want.a person thats good for me? Im still numb from my last relationship. But I want to move forward. Help me please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2013): I am not a fan of online relationship, honestly.
Maybe I had been watching too much of MTV's The Cat fish show. So, its good to know you found someone nice from online.
Maybe its not that bad. Anyway, since you've known him for 6 years, that's great. However, since I am not a fan of online dating, I still think that you still have the need to catch plenty of time knowing him first, in person. Give it like 6 months, I guess. (if he loves you, he wouldn't mind 6 months after all he waited 6 years)
Because to me, its different, online and in person, right?
People can say, Im single, online but in reality their married.
Its just so scary. I think you should get to know him better first before you worry about marrying him. You really need to get to know him better.
Also about your insecurities, no one can stop it but just you. Honestly. There are so many reasons why we get so insecure, but the bottom line is, insecurity its a Mentality TYPE OF PROBLEM.
But you know what, its easy to remove insecurities. What you need to do, is to let go of your fears. Accept what you can't control. Be good at things that you can control.
Also, If a guy will not like or love you the way you are, then his not worthy of you. Honey, when it comes to LOVE, PHYSICAL ATTRIBUTES has very less power over it.
Have you seen a lot of gorgeous men dating an ugly women?
or less attractive women? Or vice versa? I have seen a lot.
And it makes me wonder, what the hell?
So, if its true love no matter how you look like, it wouldn't matter. Now, if its because his single and your a single mom, it wouldn't matter too if his into you.
A guy who really loves you will accept everything about you.
If he can't again his not worthy of you.
If his financially stable and your not, it wouldn't be an issue when it comes to love.
Look at the mirror, what do you see? yourself.
Love that girl in the mirror. Make her the best looking girl in your eyes. Not just by putting a make up.
But by how you feel and how you see her.
Let her glow.
let go of your fears and insecurities.
Good luck!
So don't be insecure at all. Your just making yourself worry over something you should not.
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