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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am missing my ex and not sure if I should leave him alone or pursue a friendship or what not. We dated for three-four years when I was in high school and he is five years older then me. I went away for college and when he started talking about following me, I ended it which apparently hurt him real bad. So we have talked and he has given me advice on other guys over the years, but now I am graduating and moving back home and want to get together to see how he is doing. I just want to see what is up with him since I've been away. I will send him text and he will reply sometimes, but others not. I have also told him that if he wants me to leave him alone or if he is dating or something I would totally leave him alone because I don't want to cause him problems by me contacting him. But he never says no don't contact me or that he is dating anyone. I am in town now and wanted to get together but as soon as I mentioned that he stopped replying to me. Therefore I am a little confused. I am not sure if he is over me and just is keeping his distance, dating someone, or what. All-in-all I just dont get why he wouldn't leave me alone, if he didn't want me texting him ever.... what are your thoughts?
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reader, Emmy-Lou  +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Sometimes exes can become friends and others not. I would think the reason that he hasn't replied to you about seeing him is that he feels if he has another go with you, you will hurt him again.My advice would be to meet him somewhere open like a bar and just suggest a nice drink and a friendly chat, if he still doesn't reply, then it seems you have hurt him a lot more than you had first realised.It's never nice being dumped when someone is going away, your initial thoughts would be that thy want to be free to hook up with other people.Try and put yourself in his shoes and think about how you would feel if someone did it to you, would you be able to forgive and forget so easily.Hope this helps and good luck.
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