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writes:I met a guy in a club and he asked for my number which I gave it to him, that night he mentioned about his job and where he lived and then I said good bye to him. Seven weeks went by and then one night I received a text message from him I replied and then we kept sending text to each other for 4 days, he has never talked to me on the phone, I felt that he wanted to ask me out but never did, one week later I decided to send him a text message asking him if he had any plans for the weekend. He replied hours later and said that we could meet in a club I drove and met him, we had a good time before driving back home he kissed me and eventually I decided to spend the night with him. I am 34, divorced and with a 9 year old daughter, my ex husband was my first sexual partner we got divorced 4 years ago. I am attractive and I have been single by choice not dating but having fun with my single girlfriends my decision to sleep with this man was based in the fact that I wanted to have a new experience and he is an attractive 43 years old professional man.After one week he sent me another text message and said if I wanted to stop by his house and watch a movie, I knew he wanted just sex and I wanted the same thing so I drove to his place then I found out he is a very well known person in the city a successful executive from a Tele communication company he talks to me about his parents who are dead and the non-profit organizations were is part of the board of directors, he only has one 18 years old daughter and he never lived with the mother or has ever lived with a woman. After that second night I felt like having a conversation with him about who I am but he didn’t show any interest in my personal life so I decided not to show him my emotions and I left.Two weeks later it was my birthday and he sent me a text message, I told him I was going out that night to celebrate and I invited him to come, he said that he had had so many social events that week and he wanted to rest but he asked me to stop by his house, I thought a lot before replying back to him, then I said to myself this is just sex and I will take it as just sex, so I went to his house after the club, he was so nice with me treated sweet and we had sex again and I stayed the night. The next day like always he becomes cold and distant and goes back to his things, I am very self-confident and in a way I am successful too I have achieved things in my life and my life is pretty balanced, but I find myself feeling low when I am next to him I look around his house and I see pictures of him with so many famous people, politicians and businessmen, I like him but even though I am very aware this is a sex-only relationship I would like him to consider me as the special woman I believe I am. I know by giving myself so soon he wasn’t going to take me so serious but he is my second sexual experience I know he is not going to care, but I am not a slut. I am not emotionally attached to him but it bothers me that even though I am attractive, well mannered and professional he doesn’t care about me. Stupid as it sounds… can these type of encounters ever lead to a more serious relationship?
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (13 October 2008):
 Hi dear, It looks like that guy is not interested in you even though you are well mannered, attractive, professional,etc... I believe he is not interested in having a relationship. He is just interested in having intercourse. You must respect that he does not want a fixed relationship with you, however I do understand that it is frustrating for you. The fact that he does not show any interest in your personal life, speaks volumes. It is up to you now if you are comfortable in just having sex with him. Good luck!.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): Amazingly,your situation sounds a lot like one i was in a few months back.we hung out,and did things we shouldnt have but not sex.he was distant after that,until one night our conversation got onto what we did "that night".and this time we had sex.i figured it was all he was after just the same as your situation,but yet i still went through with it.i wanted more than sex,but he was always cold the next day....so i knew the deal.and then he told me he just wanted to be friends....but still kept trying to get me in bed! so i stopped speaking to him.and i felt the same as you feel right now.it makes you wonder whats wrong with you,and why he doesnt want to get to know you as a person.but honestly,its not you.its him.he obviosuly doesnt want a relationship,and maybe theres a good reason,maybe he was hurt before.or maybe he just likes being single.it doesnt make it right for him to do that to you,but trust me it isnt your fault.he has his own issues,and its best if you move on before you do get feelings for him emotionally.maybe try to have a talk with him first and see what he thinks about getting to know you outside of the bedroom.if he wants to be "just friends",then id suggest you end it.
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