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writes: I love my girlfriend, but am no longer in love with her. I want more than anything to be with her forever but feel that its impossible because im no longer in love with her. The problem is im no longer physically attracted to her. Any ideas, i dont want to lose this person, but feel our relationship is a waste of time. Reply to this Question
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (8 April 2006):
 i agree you tux you should speak to your gf, tell her how you feel explain how you still love but just dont feel attracted to her.
because this isnt something that you can deal with yourself this soemthing you have to deal with as a couple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2006): You didn't say how long u have both been together but i am suspecting that the initial 'honeymoon period' is now over. There was probably a time when you felt your relationship was exciting and you were really happy and in love. Well i can tell u now that this stage of a relationship doesn't stick around, and that applies to ALL relationships. Those couples who stay together for a long time and remain happy are the ones that accept these changes in a positive way and accept that their love is more of a commited and content type of love. However i do also believe physical attraction is an important thing. Were u attracted to her once? Has her appearance changed in any way? Maybe just because the excitement and the sparks have gone u don't fancy her in the same way. That is sad but maybe u can both try to re-ignite those sparks, go out or have a laugh together, try to remember wot it was that brought u together in the first place and the way u felt then. Was there a certain way she smiled, maybe those little annoying things she does used to be 'cute' back then. How often do u surprise her and make her feel good? Maybe if u make her feel good again her positive attitude may just bring out the girl u used to know and love, and she may make u feel good in return. You may also need to consider what you both have in common and how well you both communicate. However, if no matter what u try to do, you still don't feel happy i would advise u to end the relationship. You may just not be compatible. Anyway good luck in whatever u decide to do.
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reader, tux  +, writes (7 April 2006):
 The only thing I can say is you need to talk to her and explain what you are feeling. If you aren't in love with her in the sense you want to be romantically involved I would let her move on. You'd end up wasting your and her time if you don't forsee the two of you getting married as lovers in the future.
But then again... that is only may take on what i've read.
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