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writes:HiIm 33 and it complicated. I split up from my partner 4 years ago, we have known each other for 11 years and we a 7 year old son together. Since we have split we have still been spending lots of time together and sleeping with each other. I know he has had lots of flings and so have I. We live seperatly and he asked me to move in with him, which i was so scared and never answer the question, as when we previously lived together it weren't good. I found out last week that he has now started seeing someone else, I am devestated about it. He contacted me 2 days ago to see if there was any chance of us making a go of it, i said that i would like to - but he then text to say he had to make the decision between me and his new girlfriend (he told me its only been a few weeks). I had said to him that he had to tell our son if it was over as he was getting confused with us not spending time together. All I got off him was a text to say he had told our son that we were not girlfriend and boyfriend anymore. Why am I so sad?
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reader, kellyO +, writes (7 April 2006):
 Dearie, i think you are sad becos u still have feelings for him. He is the father of your child and i am sure both of you must have been through alot together over the past several years. Regardless of this you have to let him sort out his affairs. what the two of you have isnt a normal healthy relationship and you have to think of your son feelings as well.
You indicated in your posting that he invited you to move in with him and you had your doubts becos previously your staying together wasnt good. What makes you think things will now be different? Also, i dont think he was being sincere inviting you to move in with him while he has been seeing someone else.
Its your decision really but i personally would advise you to stay strong and focus for yours son sake. Move on with your life and look for a suitable guy who will be truly committed to you and your needs. Notwithstanding he is still the father of your son so he will always be part of your lives.
Goodluck and i sincerely wish you the best.
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