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writes: Okay, so we’ve been together for a year now. Beginning was good, but lately we’ve been hitting some rough patches about everyday. There were times he’d accuse me of cheating on him. He lives 15 minutes way, but if I wasn’t with him or online/on the phone talking to him I was sleeping because I had to get up for classes in the morning, so it made no sense to accuse me of it, he had no reason to believe it. He’s always asking me what I’m doing when I’m talking to him via internet or phone and when I respond he always follows it up by a, “is that it?” It makes me feel like he doesn’t trust that I’m telling him it all and I do. When I ask him, he just replies, “nothing”, or “just sitting here”. He gets mad if I say anything like that and it annoys me when he says it. He gets mad if I ask to hang out with my friends who are girls. He gets mad if I talk to anyone else. He always expects that I’ll tell him everything right off the bat without him asking. Half the time I do say stuff, he just isn’t interested and I can’t pick out what he wants to know and hear and what he doesn’t, so I figure he’ll say something when he does. He’s always stayed up till absurd hours of the night and he never knows why, he just isn’t tired he says and usually just says he sat around all night playing games or watching movies. I find porn on his computer when he just denies it all the time. The one time during dinner 2/3 girls called twice and asked for him laughing because it was a “prank call”. April Fool’s day he made a really dumb joke by saying that he had sex with this one chick friend I used to have which I completely disrespect in everyway possible now for the shit she did to me and he knows it. He knows I hate her and we don’t talk anymore and then got mad because I didn’t find it humorous. I show him a picture of a dress I wanted to get and he was like the dress is ugly, but you can get the model for me. I couldn’t joke about anything like that without him taking it to an extreme and flipping out, so now I don’t know how to take it cause he acts like he can do/say as he pleases and I should be fine with it, but when it comes to me, I have to be kissing his ass 24-7.Now I’m just wondering what is going on. Are these signs that maybe he isn’t interested in me anymore or that he wants someone else or is even thinking about cheating??
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (8 April 2006):
 it sounds like you boyfriend a really high maintance, control freak. if he doesnt get thinngs his own way he flips out. this isnt a guy who is going to treat you well, you can do so much better. he's rude, mean, selfish, i dont seem to see a good points about him, why are you with this guy. move on....he isnt worth your time.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (7 April 2006):
 Well they are certainly signs that something is seriously wrong in the relationship. I am curious to see if you can think of anything that might have been a catylyst for him behaving this way as it seems that things were not always this way.
To be brutally honest his behaviour isnt on at all regardless of cheating/not being interested. It points to something hidden on his part but it maybe a response to something he feels about something that happened between you, not necessarily cheating. However, it could be that especially if there is no obvious reason for his behaviour changing.
I think you need to comfront him about this before it gets you down in a major way. You need to remember you deserve better than this. You have done nothing to deserve this treatment at all and you are not at fault in any way. Be firm with him, tell him how you are feeling and realise that if he isnt prepared to change you may have no option but to leave. Hope that helps, take care.
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