A
male
age
36-40,
*daminio
writes:Hello this is a typical story but I'm feeling lost and like I'm just wandering through life.. about 3 years back I split up with my first love. We was 2gether for 5 years. I did love her but didn't feel I could look after .. she was wealthy I wasn't. Anyway she brought a new flat.. I didn't move in and hid away for 3 months. She got a new man..but she messed me about after as she wouldn't leave me alone.. I do part blame me for it which doesn't help. But I don't meet girls that give me the same feeling she did. And it winds me up. I've had 1 fling with another girl but felt bad as I didn't like her as much
View related questions:
split up Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, adaminio +, writes (18 May 2013):
adaminio is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCan I get free therapy or help for this? I'm getting sick of punishing myself.. maybe it would help.. thanks again.
A
male
reader, adaminio +, writes (18 May 2013):
adaminio is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys.. yeah I know I b^^^^ed up on something special, but I did push her away, but I did try after , I spent 6 months chasing her after I found out, she kept sayin she loved me and wanted to get rid of him but was scared lol.. but she still was ringing me at work all the time.. heck even 2 months ago we had a email I joking asked u engaged yet.. she was like no no no with a smiley face.. problem is my head can't take it and reminds me what she has done and I don't get full reassurance from her.. oh well . Don't think I could ever trust anyone again though
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): You're young, you have many years ahead of you to have opportunities.
In the meantime focus on other areas of your life. Such as your job or career or other interests and pursuits. Your relationship is just one part of life it is not your entire life.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013): You have to realize that the past doesn't equal the future. What is gone is gone. Start fresh today. Look at positive and negative traits. you even said that certain things are not you. Work on your self image and then drive change to make yourself a better person. Take action assap.xoxo
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013): Some people are drawn to material things, wealth, clothes, cars, etc however when you have all these things... And your not shallow then your drawn to a persons character, their heart so to speak.. It looks like you spoilt what could have been the best thing in your life by worrying you had nothing to give her.. Why? Mark yourself so low? You were giving her the greatest gift of all .. Yourself .. That was all she wanted.. But by worrying fretting you protected that into the relationship and it broke down .. If she is with someone new, then I'm afraid all you can do is move on.. Sometimes life only gives us one chance . If however she is single then you could write her a letter expressing why you feel the relationship ended. And that you do still care very deeply and would be willing to meet and take things slowly to see if you two could reindle what once was .. Take care and keep us posted
...............................
A
male
reader, adaminio +, writes (16 May 2013):
adaminio is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry it cut me off, basically I feel as though I give up on an oppOrtunity to being happy, or being a better person. Because when I was with I didn't feel I could give her the best.. I feel its a chance I won't get again.
...............................
|
