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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I recently saw an old friend whilst out and spent a good amount of the evening with him catching up. He's 17 and very nice and friendly, too nice I might add. On that day we talked about a lot of things, we've got quite a few things in common. I have to let you know that I'm single and never been kissed and he's experienced, quite experienced apparently. What also happened is we discussed relationships, I knew he used to date a girl in my college for about 2 weeks when we all were in year 7 (we're now in year 12) and when I asked about what he still thought of her (I said this in a friendly humorous way) he said 'why do I get the feeling I'm getting set up' and smiled. Once asked again he said it depends. The next day whilst talking on a messaging service he told me I was 'cute and all' in a casual way and asked whether he could ask me a personal question, 'why have I been single all this time' . I told him there were numerous reasons including the fact that my sixth form college is filled with girls. He then asked me if I like anyone at the moment. I told him all the male friends that I know are jerks and I can't see myself with any of them. After, he asked if I'd like to be in a relationship. I replied yes. He told me that he 'wants, needs a relationship'. I'm not sure what this means, a serious relationship or a casual one? I turned his question on himself and asked if he liked anyone, he said 'yes, but I don't know if she's interested'. I told him 'it doesn't hurt to ask' and right after he asked what I was doing the next day. We ended up going to the park which was a bad idea considering the amount of green flies that covered our clothes and hair. Gross. On our way there I asked him who this girl he liked was and he wouldn't tell me, he just said that he didn't know her well enough. This is what he's been saying about me, that he didn't know me well enough. We talked but it wasn't as fun as the first time, sure we smiled and laughed a bit but the conversation lagged at times and I was too shy to keep eye contact with him (its difficult when you're walking side by side). So to end the evening we just sat down around the corner from my house and just sat and talked a bit more. I eventually ended this laziness and pulled him to his feet in a gentle way, his foot was hurting after an injury that occurred a long time ago and still he enjoys walking and playing football. We said goodbye and that was it, just the casual kiss on the cheeks that we usually do in our countries.Do you think he likes me? If yes then why am I not feeling anything back on his part, he hasn't flirted or anything. Well, he tried to buy me Ice cream but that doesn't count. I think he's trying to take it slow, but I don't know if that's because he knows I'm new to the whole relationship scene or whether its because he wants a good long lasting relationship. I do like him, but what if this girl he likes is the girl he used to date before, wouldn't that be something huh! Also, is it bad to complement a guy a few times, apparently when done too much it puts a guy off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2013): You may not be aware; but your age is listed between 16-17 on the website. This guy that you so eloquently described is probably no more than 18. You may be taking a lot seriously, and creating a lot of things in your imagination.He may like you, but he may see you as you are. A young girl trying to behave much older. It isn't likely he is planning on having a serious relationship with someone so young and inexperienced. As you have indicated yourself, you are not experienced enough; and although he has been nice to you, he is mostly being polite. He wants a serious relationship "someday." That doesn't mean now or necessarily with you.You may need to wait until you're a little older. You have more to learn and much more growing up to do, before you are ready to take on anything more than a few dates with boys your own age.
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