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writes:Basically I think I have a problem. I am and have always been very attracted to significantly older men - I lost my virginity to a man in his mid thirties when I was 14, and have continued to find myself getting into various situations with men of that sort of age ever since.I'm now 20, and something has happened which has made me touch base a bit. For the last couple of months, I've been indulging in (so far) innocent flirtation with a man 26 years my senior. He knows full well that I would happily do prettymuch anything he asked, and I know that the only reason he hasn't is that circumstances haven't allowed our relationship to go any further than just flirtation. Anyway, I happened to tell one of my best friends about this man, and she was, well, horrified would probably be the right word. Basically everything about my past came out, and she thinks I have a problem. Now I think about it, maybe I do. Is mine normal behaviour? I just don't know - I am just not attracted to men my age. I don't know what to do.
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reader, pinkpoprox64  +, writes (21 April 2009):
I am 14 and I like older and more mature men, most of them are married. I talked to my friends about it and they were like freaking out so now they kind of joke around about it whenever it comes up. I think that it has to do with them having more experience and the whole maturity thing. Younger guys are obviously immature so I guess I just look past them and am automatically attracted to older guys. Maybe you are dealing with the same thing. :)
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reader, Neferterie +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Hey no problem! After reading your comment I went out looking for any information on this (as I myself am intrigued by this) and here's what I found. Perhaps you might read a bit and could relate to something? or agree with something? I'm not sure if you will or not but this is worth a try right? Hope these might help!:)P.S. that last one is actually from the mens point of view of dating younger women, again, just some more information!http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/408679/reasons_why_younger_women_are_attracted.html?cat=41http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/281351http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith/21_dating_advice.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Neferterie, thanks for your post - it was quite reassuring :)
I totally agree that the manner in which I lost my virginity is gross - as time has gone on, I've become more and more ashamed about that, and wished more and more that I had lost it to someone else. It was a thoroughly degrading experience, and I have never really dealt with it - my method of 'dealing' with it has not been to seek help from anyone, but to lock it away and to pretend to myself that it happened to someone else. What I don't understand is why, with this having been my first real sexual encounter (and it wasn't something I enjoyed) I have forever since been attracted to men his age and older.
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reader, Neferterie +, writes (29 March 2009):
Okay take a deep breath! It's okay, you cannot help who you're attracted to. I dont think you have any problem, well besides the fact that it is alittle gross that you lost your virginity to a 30 year old at 14. But now it's fine, your an adult and you can make your own decisions. I think the problem you need to address is the fact that you would do anything for this man. But thats just me.
So dont worry, there are lost of women (my self included, although not so much older) that are attracted to older men, they seem to be more knowlegable, and more experienced. So dont worry! Enjoy your present guy! Good luck and have fun!
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