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writes:I was in a wonderful relationship for 5 years - complete trust and no infidelity. However, now that I am 'back in the game' I am noticing that most of my female friends are cheating on their partners. The most disturbing thing is that it appears as though this has become a cultural 'fad'. Is this the way of the world? Do most women and men cheat on their spouses in today's world?Personally I take great offense to such actions. It takes a special person to give their heart to someone else and then to completely deceive them and engage in lewd acts with someone else - and then come home and kiss the faithful partner. This is not a question meant to judge anyone (I have been unfaithful with girlfriends too long ago) - it is simply a survey on how many people cheat, why they do so, and if this is the new 'wave' and I should just accept it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): In my opinion there's no special place to meet a potential lover. I have meet women during the day and sometimes in nightclubs and parties. A good rule of thumb is to go to places were your "type" might be. Everything from gyms, shoops, campus, nightclubs are all places to meet women.If u want to to build a social circle then my advice is to hit parties and talk to much people and be social. Finding "good" people is not easy, so just get to know alot of people and your probably on a good way.Good luck!
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reader, questions12 +, writes (31 March 2009):
questions12 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, great news that there still are some believers out there!!
Now, where does one go to meet good people? Typically, I do not go out to meet people per se, it usually happens in passing like in class or through a friend etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Hi
Sadly yes many do lie and cheat....But i think it is simply the individual character of a person.. blaming the world ?????????? PEOLPE lie and cheat...can we really blame a NEW WAVE? Should you just accept it? Only if you want to make excuses for lies. There are no lies in TRUTH...and if somebody has lied and cheated the TRUTH is they ARE RESPONSIBLE not outside factors....Temptation is at every turn, i agree...but so is CHOICE!
via con dios
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): I dont think that the internet is to blame at all, there has always been ways to have affairs, ok it may be easier now, but gut instinct always tells you if the relationship is going to work or not, you have to give it your best shot, but in the end you have to preserve your own emotions, feelings and dignity, inside you will know (more so women than men), if you have to question how much somone loves and wants to be with you (and you only) then the answer is that this probably isn't the one. You are the most special person here and if someone doesn't want to make you feel that way then there not worth it. Might sound harsh, but why would you let someone treat you worse than you would treat them? Go on your intuition-it's usually right!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Yeah!!!In a way Thanks to The "Internet"... It's really become a www.@.com world (Wild/Wicked World) with very little Honesty left... With so very many people "Taking" Others for a Roller Coaster ride...
Where Scamming & Spamming seems to have become a way of life for many wanting to make a fast
buck at other people's naivety ( & Mostly Loneliness) It's also given an easy way to lead couples to
Betray & cheat their partners... One of the 21st Century's "greatest" Invention... The "Internet" has
become one of Mankind's "greatest" Down falls... What else to expect? With Sites like "Cheating Wives
& Adult friend Finder(s)... Highways to Adultery & Betrayal... Alas No one or Couples are safe anymore
We seem to be "Heading" for a 2nd Sodom & Gomorah... But No one really seems to care? Its one's
own "Egoistic" Pleasure & Instant Gratification that seems to count more... Mankind seems to have
lost all sense of morality & respect for All others & everything in General (Ecology/Compassion...)
Its The "EGO" that seems to rule...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Hey man,Well.... cheating has become more and more common among people today, I must say that. It's also true that alot of women(and men) cheat on their partner.Remember, women cheat on men who do not give them enough emotional satisfaction. The truth is that most men today are not real men, they are wussbags, and do not understand and "get" women. By the way, my advice to you is to never lie to your partner. Be honest because women can tell if your cheating. If your seeing many at once tell her that your currently not interested in a "serious" relationship. It's extremely shady to cheat while your in serious mode with a girl.Personally if a girl has a boyfriend then I will not date her, unless she breaks up with him . There so many single women out there that being shady is not necessary. Good luck m8
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (29 March 2009):
 This is kind of funny... just last night I was discussing something similar. Specifically, we were talking about people that all-out lie on their dating profiles and how it doesn't make sense because sooner or later, they're going to have to produce whatever they had so skillfully lied about. On a related part of the discussion, we were talking about a situation I had where I was dating somebody and later discovered that she was married! I'm no alter boy, but I backed out of that relationship immediately, but all the time this girl was begging me to stay with her.
So, where does all this lead? I haven't a clue. I do think that it's not a general lack of morals in society, but perhaps a stronger indication that we as a society aren't taking the necessary steps to make sure we're selecting the right mates... whatever those steps might be...
My only solace is to maintain my integrity and morals while others around me trash theirs like last week's newspaper. The only thing I have absolute control over is my actions and choices. I just hope that one day I run into a woman with the same thoughts swirling around in her head too. As far as accepting this kind of behavior from others... again, I am clueless. For me, I just tend to tolerate it among my friends that are cheaters and absolutely don't interfere or play sides.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): It is a sad commentary on todays world! I still believe in loyalty, and faithfulness. But it does seem like 50% of the population is cheating!!! I have fallen to temptation as well in the past. I don't want to live that way. And try to do everything in my power to be honest, and trustworthy. We all make mistakes now and then, but it seems as thought society condones infidelity these days. at the risk of sounding Old fashion, I blame Hollywood for a lot of it...movies and celebrities! I blame Brad and Angelina! LOL! I will never forgive them for what they did to Jen!
No! Don't accept this "wave!" For every cheating woman, there is at least one who has been cheated on and wants a monogomous relationship! Don't give up on your higher standards! You will end up not trusting anyone, including yourself! Stick to convictions, and keep searching for her! She is out there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): No, it's not the new norm. I wouldn't trust friends who cheat, coz cheating is lying, and if they can cheat / disrespect their spouses/girlfriends they are not loyal to you either.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 March 2009):
Nope. Cheating is still bad. You just have weak or evil friends.
Good Luck!! xx
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