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writes:hi everyone. i have previously posted my question but i would like to hear more advice from people so i am reposting it. thank you very much!i am in love with my aunt. im 21 and shes 34. my uncle passed away 3 years ago and shes been single since. it happen one night when we drank and kissed. we both realise it might not be acceptable by somebody, but i dont feel any guilt out of it. instead, i feel that i want to protect her and take care of her for my late uncle. i was very close with my uncle. she's working alone self employed now and helped by some relatives to pay for her house mortgage, but sooner or later she will need someone else to help her with the work, and as i can see, i am the most preferred person by her and the relatives, but no one knows our relationship.i do not wish to give up on this, as i look into her eyes i realize she is the woman i want to be with for the rest of my life. please advice me on how should i handle this relationship, so that one day in the future we are acceptable by friends and family.(p/s she is not directly related to my family, but my uncle is) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): "sooner or later she will need someone else to help her"
You need to reach inside yourself and make sure of your motivation. If you love her and are NOT trying to rescue her then go on and move forward. However, if you're attracted to the idea that you're going to be SAVING her, be very careful.
Some people (like people raised around addicts / alcoholics) have a predilection for being attracted to people that they perceive need rescuing. These relationships can end poorly, as after years of living with these people life can be a series of dramas that few can stand.
Just make sure that you have an honest and healthy foundation. A lack of drama is a good first test - Drama, or her being a victim of others is the first red flag.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (29 August 2010):
it is not wrong aslong as you are both of legal age
and this is not considered
incest by any mean,
you might expect some trouble from your mother and sisters regarding her the age gap tough
but mothers and sisters well always find something to complain about their brother's/son's wife any way !
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (29 August 2010):
 Well if it might be what she wants, then you two can overcome all the rest.
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