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writes: i am in love with my brothers wife. I am going threw a devorce with my wife she left me for a woman but that is another store. i t all started back 7 years ago we all met at the race track at the same time. i fell in love with her then her and my brother got maried about 2 years later. for a long time i just avoided her and my bro. for about a year we didnt talk at all i.in that time they had a kid i love her to death and would die for her. while in labor she ask for me to be there to hold her while my brother sat on the couch watched t.v and laughed at her in for 32 hours. when she herd i was seperating she said it was the happiest day of her life and ask if i wonted to stay in there spare room i was there for a month and a half. in that time all i saw was pain my brother would come home from work turn on the video game and play till he fell a sleep onthe couch. i have saw roommates with more emosion than them and she has told him that but he didnt care.she told me that she would of gone for me if i was not married when we met ilove her we have moved out together and kindof seperated. we talk she tels me she missies me but cant decied who she wants to be with. the one she loves or the one she feels obligated to. i just want her to be happy what do i do my life withn my brother is over and the rest of my family dont like me that much eather but this was something that has been biulding for 7 years and couldent see her depresed all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): you need to let her know that you love her. if she has feelings for you the way it seems, and she cant decide who to be with, then let the games begin. you know at this point your brother is going to do whatever he can to win her back. so you need to pull out the big guns and show her that you are the better one, if that is what you want (to be with her). do whatever you can to follow your heart- go for it bro!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): Hi there I know exactly what this lass is feeling I have been with my boyfriend for nine year since I was 14 I had three kids to him I only 24 now but we haven't exactly had the best relationship he always has been accused of sleeping round caught out a couple of times but im stupied enough to of kept takeing him back but I did it for the kids he can be quiet violent and controlling.Anyway bout four year ago me and his half brother said we had feelings told him but he beged me to stay with him and cause I had kids it wasn't right so I did things still didn't get much better,well he got back intouch with his brother again just recently and bang its started again we both still have feelings but it has gone abit further now and I dont have a any idea what im gonna do but if she has the guts which I haven't got manily cause of me kids you should tell her the sod whatever and go with her heart good luc to the both of you xxxxxxxl
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): There is simply nothing you can do until she decides what and whom she wants to be with. This is not your decision. It's hers and a sticky one at that.
Indeed she may have married the wrong brother, but until she decides to divorce him, you need to move on. Take some classes, pour yourself into a hobby. You might meet someone else in the process. Which I think would probably be best in the long run. Though she may have feelings for you, she may not be able to bring herself to bail out of her committment to him, and to God. Some people have deep convictions about things like that, and you should respect it.
Have faith, there is someone wonderful out there for you but it may not be your brother's wife.
Best luck to you.
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