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He found out I was unfaithful in a past relationship..is this why he's gone cool?

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Question - (6 January 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 6 January 2007)
A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

hi

I have been in my current job now since the summer, which is not a permanent fixture. There is this guy who works there who i have fancy alot, and is ten years older than me, im 21 and he is 31, and we are both single. He is everything i could want in a guy, he is sensitive, funny, sometimes shy, and fit and goodlooking.

We have been flirting continuosly for about five months now buy way of long glances and smiles, touches, whispering things from across the office to each other ect. My feelings for him are growing with each passing day.

I think i have seriously turned him off me now, i was chatting to the other girls in the office and one of them said that they had been unfaithful in a previous relationship, and i said that i also had been as well. I don't know why i said it, i asked him if he had ever been unfaithful, and he said he never has done and never would, i thought he was going to say the opposite of that. I wish i never said anything now, i know in my heart of hearts if i ever got this guy i would never cheat on him.

That was a week ago now, and we have flirted since then, but why won't he ask me out? If he hasen't done in five months it unlikely he is going to anytime soon i take it, so i guess its down to me. Could it be because we work together? Is she shy, scared? If we got together i would leave there, im looking for other work anyway, but i am not leaving there without him. Nearly six months of flirting surely has got to mean something.

Anyone got any tips on how to get my guy?

Thanks you all for reading my question.

Amy xx

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (6 January 2007):

kenny agony auntyou have been flirting now for six months, so my hunch is he won't be asking you out any time soon, however from what you have mentioned he does fancy you. I think he is either shy, scared of rejection, or just feels awkward because its an office environment.

I also don't think you have done yourself any favours with this guy by saying that you have been unfaithful in a previous relationship, that is a real turn off, no guy wants to hook up with a girl who has done the dirty on someone. Although you say you have been flirting since then, so his feelings are still there.

get him on his own, away from other co-workers and ask him out for a drink after work, i bet he will say yes.

Good luck, let me know how it goes x

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A female reader, Reebe United Kingdom +, writes (6 January 2007):

Reebe agony auntStop messing around! ask this guy out! you don't firt with someone for 6 months, if your single, if your not interested!

ask him out for a drink after work, it maybe that he's alittle shy or unsure about how you feel about him, and like you, doesn't know what to do about it. Ask him out... go on.... I dare you!

Good Luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007):

Simple, ask him out on a date. If he says no, then yes it maybe a little embarrassing for you, but you're thinking of changing your job anyway. Go on bite the bullet! He might say yes.

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