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writes:I'm a healthy guy in my late 40"s. But I have some pretty disturbing problem, and I don't know what to do.So I have erectile dysfunction, and I have no idea why. I had a very high sex drive, but now, I have no wish to have sex at all, and when I try, I lose my erection, in seconds. I went to the doctor, and all the medical tests were fine, also my hormones were normal. It is now the second year like that,and Im losing my marriage, as my wife says , if its not medical cause, than it must be her. But Im just as puzzled ,as her. I wonder if anybody got the same problem here,or what should I think about it. Thanks.
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reader, madluv +, writes (12 April 2012):
I do regual kegal exercises for myself and I'm female.
However i was doing reading on them and it says it helps guys with ED. If dr's don't know why maybe you should ask them about man kegal exercisies. More times then not this will help fix you..
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (6 April 2012):
 I agree with what everyone is saying. You definitely should get checked again... this time by a Urologist. And stress, diet, or lack of exercise can also be a contributing factor. Also as you age, regardless of how well you may feel physically, overall your body would slow down a bit. Which it would become increasingly important for you to not only be in good mental/physical shape, but to watch what you eat. Certain foods can also hinder your erection quality.
And I would definitely recommend that you read this article...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/guys-what-to-do-if-youre-suffering-from.html
Best Wishes!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 April 2012):
 I agree that more testing is in order.
A urologist is called for
you could have Low-T
you could benefit from Viagra or Cialis...
and note that there are many ways to make love to your wife without an erection... LEARN them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): Yeah, I agree with Honeybun. Go to a doctor/urologist and see if you can get a prescription for Viagra or something similar. You don't have to use it everyday, but it will help you and give a little more confidence.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 April 2012):
 You had your thyroids and testosterone level checked too? After 35 both of those can decrease significantly and both of those can in turn lower your libido.
I would go get checked out by an urologist too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): The medical community seems convinced that this cannot happen in normal healthy people. But real world experience tells me that it does all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): "I am healthy, but have erectile dysfunction, without a reason, what should I do?"
There is a reason, be it medical or psychological or otherwise, and you need to find a doctor who can give you a formal diagnosis and provide proper treatment.
Schedule an appointment with a urolgist, preferably one associated with a major teaching hospital affiliated with a medical school, preferably one with a stated clinical interest in ED.
Assuming "I went to the doctor" means you saw your family doctor, otherwise known as your primary care physician (PCP). If your PCP did not refer you to a urologist when your tests came back negative, then it's time for you to find a new PCP. You have a medical issue, if PCP can't help you then he should have directed you to someone who can.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (5 April 2012):
Yes definitely second opinion time. Have also heard good reports about cailis. Also, do work out? I had a bad spell and cut down coffee alcohol and bad food, started exercise and I feel like a teenager again, well almost!
Make sure you keep your wife satisfied with fingers and tongue and tell her you will surprise her with your love one of these days!
Just chill a bit, stress is the worse thing for this. Good luck.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (5 April 2012):
 It could be that the doctor missed something here, but there are definitely things that you can try such a cialis. If all your wife hears is that the tests were fine then I see why she would start to get those thoughts. Even though it is one of the hardest things for a man to do you should tell her that she is beautiful and that there is something wrong with you not her. Then you two can explore options for making the issue less of a problem. This way she can help you and by figuring this out together should bring some comfort to her and some strength back into the marriage.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Time for a second opinion from youur doctors. It can be many things, stress, diet, age, pressure or maybe an underlying issue....
Get a second opinion is my suggestion
Good luck
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