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writes:I have finally made a break from a relationship that has not been going anywhere for years and I did not want to waste anymore time.I did fall for someone I used to work with and the feeling of attraction was mutual but neither of us moved it forward as he did not know how unhappy I was in my relationship and we were working together and he was the boss. I have now left and tried hinting to him in various communications (e.g. xmas cards)that I would like to meet but he has not been direct in answering.I have now joined a dating website but I am so nervious about meeting people on it. Ideally I would love to date the guy I was working with but we both do not know much about each others circumstances.If anyone has any wise words of advice, please forward particularly to do with dating on-line agencies.Thanks for your time.
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reader, 1sunshine  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 The above posts were well informative and smart. Now on to the lighter side of things. ;)
I met my boyfriend online about a year ago. We are really happy and he is the love of my life!!
The trick is to be light and friendly. Keep things basic and be choose wisely. There are tons of guys on there for all sorts of reasons so be careful! I went on 4 dates before meeting my boyfriend. ( I consider myself very lucky.) Put a nice picture of yourself on the site, nothing provocative. I used Zoosk on Facebook. Let someone hit you up first. Chat with them for a while and get a feel for their personality. If things are going well and you want to talk to them on the phone? Have him call you. Keep your options opened. There are all kinds of personalitits out there. Keep in mind that location really does matter. I chose people that lived close by to me. Eventually If I felt interested enough in someone? I met them at a local restaurant or coffee shop and talked. keep it in a public place for saftey reasons. Feel free to message me if you have any questions! :D Good luck to you!
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reader, xgod +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Beware some of the dating websites. Many paid "gold" or "premium" profiles are actually spam attack ads which ask for your email address and send you links to websites which trigger auto-loading spyware to infiltrate your computer to steal your private info stored there or to log what you type on your keyboard for credit card numbers and passwords.Simply put, when you find a profile you like, if you are able to have them send you email directly to your email address, be sure you use an alternate email from your primary email account. If you receive emails from prospective dates with photos (1 or 2) and/or a link to a site different than the dating site itself, be very careful. If the email contains a link directing you to an "adult" photos website, that is the malicious SPAM MALWARE. You can report that email and that user to the host of the email address (most of the time: abuse at (his email host) dot com. Also report that account to the dating site you first initiated contact with him on.There are tons of malicious hackers and bad companies and horrible people who live off the money they rob from you by capturing your email information, passwords and credit card information. They use dating sites to find victims. They have become so sophisticated that only someone with a discerning eye would notice the cloned profile descriptions in their dating profiles.Be careful. Ask for verification of humanity. Some of the bots will auto-reply to your email response if you inadvertently do send a reply to them.What I have begun doing is asking for human verification of life by spelling out a math problem and asking them to grab a calculator (or to open the calculator on their computer) and to post in the subject line of the email the mathematical result. For example, you may ask something like "In your reply, please include the result of the following math problem: what do you get when you divide sixteen by two?"By using the spelled-out numbers, a spam bot cannot calculate or automatically come up with the proper result, and definitely would not place that in the subject line.From then on, you are able to filter out the garbage and report malicious accounts, to eventually find a human you might actually converse with.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Ok, whilst internet dating can be fun, You must also be very careful. Dont put too much personal info in your accounts (ie no email addresses or phone numbers). Make sure that whatever photo's you put online are ones you would be happy for anyone to see and nothing too embarassing.
Be honest in your profiles and search for like minded people.
Whilst there are lots of great people on these sites there are also many not great people. Enusre that you chat to the person first and if you are going to meet make sure it is in a public place first and somehwere you feel comfortable.
NEVER EVER EVER lend anyone money under any circumstance. Not even if they call and say their moher or pet puppy is in hospital. There are so many horror stories about that type of thing.
Other than that, Relax and have lots of fun!
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