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writes:I can not seem to satisfy my husbands sexual needs, I am tired with work and kids etc. Trying to take care of myself to feel better about myself-which is starting to work. But I have no imagination for new ideas and am uncomfortable to initiate (always seems like the wrong time, or too planned). This has been going on for so long now, not sure how to fix it and make things come more naturally. Any suggestions for making him hot and wanting me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): Have you ever talked to him about what he wants and what turns him on. That's a good place to start. Also, is he meeting YOUR sexual needs?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the responses. Kids are still very young. Long hours at work including travel time. Husband is also busy, we do not have time to get away at all, keep talking about it , but no chance. I see now that we must make time. Thank you.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (8 May 2008):
Hi
sounds like you are willing but just worn out. First why are you tired are you sleeping of is everyone demanding your time or is it your diet. Try and work that out.
Second do you have time for each other, intamate time or is sex only at night when you go to bed. Do you go away or have days out together etc. If you can put a few thing like that in your life things may get better.
Men are aways ready, women need more time to come around and if you are running around in every day life 24-7 you need to break the cycle.
Do you ever get time to have a bath, if you do invite him in. Do you have any sexy undies, do you get underdress infront of him, all these kind of thing are great for a guy and he will do the rest if you allow yourself to slow down and smell the roses.
sex is wounderfull and as my wife says she wished she knew more about it when she was younger. she only let go in her mid 30 and as enjoyed it ever since.
let us know how you go on or message if i can help. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): How old are the kids? Teens? It sounds like your getting close to being burnt out from all the demands. I think we all experience this, especially if you both haven't been make time just for the two of you, and pampering yourself on occassion. I think your present desire is going to be on the back burner until you get a hold on the other activities. Until then, I suggest you get either of your parents or siblings to baby-sit and both of you get a hotel or something. A night relaxing and enjoying each others company, getting loose etc. It sounds like you could use it at least.
For satisfying him, what does he like and what do you do now? How is his daily life going? Is it stressed as your own? Bottom line, I sense there are other things that need attended to other then sex that is more important to the relationship. As long as he is getting some, it doesn't have to be fantastic;y outrageous, but having sex is a huge plus in itself. Many husbands don't get much at all.
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