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writes:there is this guy we used to like each other buy wen nothin happened bt us he called me boring to all hid friends and even to my facr which i find to be disrespectful but we woud argue but he would always end up in my face flirting. i foumd out he was even trying to gete drunk at some party ee attended. now iam really mean to him but like last month i bought him sosomething to eat idk y i was nice to him then for now i regret it vuz he is a workking man n puts all his money in the bank. now lately wen i think of my past wit him i get upset. i nevr slept wit him i kissed him once cause he took me to my hs prom. now lately i wanna be mean to him or talk to his friends about him and make fun of him. do yu think i shud n if so wat shud i do to make him feel as hurt as i did?
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reader, rambini  +, writes (13 April 2010):
 revenge is not a good idea, it will make you look like the resentful and obsessed one, you should walk away from this guy with your head held high.
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): He is not mean to you because of who you are. He is mean to you because of who he is. A mature adult would not do that. He has a lot to learn about life before he can be truly happy. Understand this, and you can let go of the desire to hurt him, which will make you a happier, healthier person.Also, it is always okay to simply tell a person that they hurt your feelings. But when you say it, make sure you are talking about YOUR feelings and not about what HE did wrong. He will defend himself, but as long as you are talking about your own feelings, you cannot be wrong.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 April 2010):
First of all, don't go looking for revenge. If you wanted to say something, then you should have done at the time. If you try to be mean and hurt him now, you'll be the one who looks like a bit of a stalker. Your reputation could be left in tatters if you look for revenge. If you have a problem in life, deal with it immediately. Don't sit there and then suddenly decide you want revenge, because everyone will think you're the one in the wrong.
Secondly, anything you do say wouldn't get to him anyway. He'll just think you're being petty, and won't take any notice. Then he'll say something about you that will hurt you, and everyone will believe it.
Don't waste your time. Just move on from it.
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