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writes:Hi everyone, please read this ALL before answering because I want to actually get an answer to the question I am asking and I dont want to be told things I already know! (sorry about the essay and the TMI lol!) Thanks.... I am 25 and haven't found my g spot and nor has anyone i have ever had sexual contact with. I even have a curved g spot vibrator (rampant rabbit g pulse)which is supposed to be really good, even that doesnt do the trick! I know EXACTLY where it is SUPPOSED to be and I have read countless articles with step by step instructions on how to find it but to no avail! (I know its supposed to be a few inches in on the front wall behind the pubic bone, I know about putting a pillow under my bum, I know about pressing on your tummy etc etc, all the classic tricks of the trade) My boyfriend has read up on how to find it and he tries so hard but still nothing. We have tried so many sexual positions including doggy style and legs over the shoulder which are supposed to stimulate it. Please understand that I have no trouble having clitoral orgasms so I often have my botfriend stimulate my clitoris during sex and I do orgasm but clitoral orgasms are so weak and only last a couple of seconds and I need more than this! Im sure that if I had better orgasms then I would have a higher sex drive!So What I really require is someone who was in the same boat as me maybe who tried everything and then discovered it through a different method, or someone who knows a surefire way of finding it (not any of the normal ways as stated earlier because I KNOW all of the normal methods and they dont work. I have never been sexually abused or have any reservations about sex due to religion etc so I have no reason to believe this is psychological.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for taking the time to answer, Maybe I just havent got one. I will just have to try and continue to work on making my clit orgasms better...or just count myself lucky as some girls cant orgasm at all!
I still feel like Im missing out though and although I have three good answers... if any FEMALES are reading this it would be great to get a female's point of view! thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2010): Not every woman has a readily identifiable G-spot...or at least not one that can be stimulated alone to get to orgasm. I've been with a few women who definitely have the classic, hooked-finger, G-spot and have great orgams from it. Other women need a combination of clitoral and G-spot...sometimes both coming from my penis, sometimes using a finger on the clit (my ex wife of 20 years was this way). Some only from clit. Some had no G-spot, even with multiple partners could never find it. Some HATED you probing aroung the G-spot area.
I guess what I'm saying is...maybe you just dont have it, or it needs to be stimulated indirectly or in combination with other forms of stimulation. In any case, I dont think you are going to get far on an orgasm chasing crusade...let t happen. If you relax, you might find clitoral orgasms will get better for you too.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (24 August 2010):
 In my experience (as a man mind you) it's as much about state of mind as any technique. I have found a woman has to be very relaxed and very horny. With the same woman, sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. And with other women, never.
It sounds to me like you are probably trying too hard. Let go and focus on enjoying all of sex, rather than just chasing orgasms. If you do you'll find the orgasms themselves are much better, and if you're lucky you may even stumble upon your elusive gspot too.
Sex is more about the journey than the destination
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