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writes: Okay I was just wondering about my relationship...From time to time I seem to get a weird feeling that im losing faith in my relationship. I have been going out with my girlfriend now for over 7 months.....For a couple of weeks I seem to feel really happy with my relationship and having a really good time and others I just seem too feel like im losing interest....I feel guilty about this...I was just wandering if anyone has felt this before? And am I confusing myself with not feeling so jolly one week, and linking it too my relationship..Is it normal to feel like this occasionally?.. Sometimes I feel as if my relationship becomes boring and repetative how can I improve out relationship ? ...thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, sxyredhdnc +, writes (17 July 2006):
 what you're feeling is perfectly normal so don't worry.all relationships go hot and cold at times.why not try suggesting some new things the 2 of you haven't done and explore them together.it will spice up the relationship and maybe even bring you closer.if you don't talk to her about it the relationship may be doomed to end and you wouldn't want that.i know women want honesty and open communication so share your thoughts with her she'll respect you more for it.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 All romantic relationships require a certain amount of work, and every one has its ups and downs, so yes, what you're feeling is normal and fine.
After the initial 'honeymoon phase' wears off (and that's anywhere from 3-12 months, usually), it's entirely possible that your relationship can fall into a rut and start to seem repetitive. Even sex can start to get boring, if you do it the same way, at the same time, every time.
When you start to feel like things aren't going well, you might want to try to see if there's a common thread to each incident. Think about what started you feeling like you're losing interest. Was it because of something that happened with your girlfriend, or some other aspect of your life?
Maybe they're unrelated, but if you find that you start feeling depressed each time that you and your girlfriend, say, have dinner at her folks' place (just an example from thin air), then it might be worth examining what's happening there. Are you saying something, or is she acting a certain way? There's not much to go on in your letter, but start with a bit of self-reflection.
As to livening things up, why not take a few minutes and discuss this with your girlfriend? Just start out with a simple question like "Are you happy just watching movies tonight?" Chances are, she'll ask what you mean, and you can tell her that you love her company, but wonder if she misses doing active things together, like you do. You might want to have in mind some different things to do, so you can suggest a change.
The best way to "improve" your relationship starts with talking with and understanding the needs of the other person, then trying to find a good compromise between you. So talk about it and see what you find out.
Good luck.
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