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30-35,
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writes:Does my female 19 year old uni friend like me?The things that make me think 'maybe' are:She jokes about going out and that I am the type of guy she would want to marryShe always tells me I make her laughShe calls me cuteI catch her looking at me sometimes and she often leans in, brushes etcWe never run out of things to talk aboutThe things that make me think 'no' are:Where I am slim and toned, friendly, not a HUGE party animal but social and jokey, her last boyfriends have been big, bulky and laddish [although she just split with her boyfriend when he cheated]I randomly text her a lot more than she does meShe might be calling me cute in a brotherly kind of wayWhat does everyone think? I think it's worth going for
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 April 2013):
 Yes, I think it's definitely worth a try :)
Her search for physical contact is rather telling, -it's true that some people are more touchy feely than others and if they hug you it does not mean they want to date you, but it's also true that when there's no physical attraction whatsoever, we subconsciously tend to guard more our personal space and to erect a barrier of physical distance.
In other words, we touch the people we like, at some level, even if maybe we would not intentionally act upon the attraction.
As for the big bulky laddish exes, I would not worry, that may be her general physical preference, but it's not like she has made a pledge to only date big and bulky. Unless slim and toned is a total dealbreaker for her ( what a strange dealbreaker it would be ! ) you don't need to be the carbon copy of her exes. Also because, so far it has not worked with big and bulky, so maybe now she feels it's time for a change :)
I am a bit perplexed,though, about the texting, i.e. you texting her much more than viceversa, that's slightly strange because, going by Dear Cupid posts:), most girls are insanely avid texters, give them a texting finger and they'll take the whole arm... one would say that she would jump on the occasion for a text convo even if she 's not into you, imagine if she his. Who knows ... maybe she's just not a texting type. Or maybe you have competition, she's texting other guys... one more reason to act fast :)
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