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writes:Recently me and a girl who i got on fairly well with in the past, have got on like a house on fire. For some days we are even unseparable, well one day we literally were! As we were tied to each other by the arm so obviously we were very close that whole time and got quite touchy feely and even today she called me her boyfriend...then quickly made a joke about it. We get mistaken for a couple all the time and half the school think we are an item already and i try to analyse if she flirts with me, but i find it far too hard to analyse peoples behaviour towards me, and she makes it particular hard as not only does her beauty distract me but im too busy flirting aswell! But all of my friends that have seen us together asure me that it is plain obvious that she flirts with me, and well the above mentioned cases are just a few of many as we spend a lot of time together, and i always have her laughing and giggling and we even do a few couply things like snuggling up on sofas, sharing food and playfighting/tickling each other to just name a few ways. We are pretty much compatible and like all the same things and agree on everything but still despite all that i still can't get a clear cut message that she is interested in me or whether she is just after a friendship, and although i would so prefer a relationship her friendship is so important to me and i would definately not want to risk it.So does anyone have any advise?! And please none of the "just go for it" or "wait it out" as i have and still am waiting it out and really do not want to risk our friendship. Any advise would be greatly appreciated :D
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reader, Lindo  +, writes (5 December 2009):
thats a really tough situation.. How long has this flirting being going on?Do yous test eachother?if you do, and if it has beeen going on for longer then 3 months and if you want a relationship with her, if you want her to be yours, drop MEGA hints! If she picks up on them she'l go along with it if its what she wants too, but if she jus brushes them off then its not what she wants... or shes playing hard to get... but even then she stil loves the attention shes getting from you,thats what id do anyway!hope it works out =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): If by "waiting it out" you mean more than a couple months, then okay... Is what you need to do exactly is this:Invite her out to a public but private place, like a restaurant. When you both settle in after a drink and a few jokes, you simply explain to her what you just explained to us all here... Tell her how you feel on both sides of the coin, and remember this also, if you decide not to, eventually your heart will move on. Chances are, your next girlfriend won't be very understanding about your friendship anyway. My wife prohibits me from even thinking about the possibility of talking to another woman. Eventually your paths will stray anyway. That is why most men will tell you to go for it. I had an ex-fiancee that I loved dearly. She and I were friends for over 10 years after our relationship ended. We were always there for one another and bailed each other out more than a few times. She was a truly dependable friend. After I got married, my wife, who used to seem to be cool with the ex. Changed. My ex, who lived 1600 miles away at the time wanted to congratulate us on our marriage. She sent us a set of customized champagne glasses with our names carved in the crystal. My wife rampaged about the gift and destroyed it nearly immediately. Then she gave me the cold shoulder for about two weeks, and hasn't treated me the same since, that was about 7 months ago. Basically, this may be your only chance to tell your friend how you feel. If she IS interested, you don't want to wait to long or she'll move on. Then if she does, you may not feel the same about it after. If she isn't you can still be friends, just don't burden her with emotional talk afterwards. Women seem to find it annoying and she might want out of the friendship. The choice is solely yours though...You have three options...Ask her out...Remain friends...Or, do nothing and see what fate hands you...I will remind you though, MOST women want the man to make a move. Touchy-feely friendly is usually an indicator that she likes you in a more than friend way. 95%+ on that.
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