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How do I get my wife to give a decent blow job?

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Question - (5 December 2009) 7 Answers - (Newest, 6 December 2009)
A male United States age , *oneGreyWolf writes:

How can I get my wife to give a decent BJ? She does give a BJ but she doesn't want me to cum in her mouth or on her. she says she is scared....

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A male reader, ADR386 United States +, writes (6 December 2009):

ADR386 agony auntI would NOT leave the "how to give a blow job" site open on your computer. If she isn't offended by your ham-fisted attempts at "subtly" improving her technique...it's gonna look kind of gay.

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A male reader, bharat mehta India +, writes (5 December 2009):

bharat mehta agony auntSemen is not a thing to be taste. It is certainly a root of divine pleasure, and not a divine food or drink.

Alchemy, a science of 'divine pleasure in sexuality' even do not recommend to ejaculate even in vagina, which is considered as perfectly natural. But, if you are able to judge the truth of alchemy, you will learn to enjoy the pleasure of sex by accepting non-ejaculatory sexual activity.

If you follow alchemy, then you and your relationship with partner will remain all the time hot, you and your sex organ will never know any fatigue. Please ack. this comment if you feel agree.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009):

Hi dont try and force her to do this. And leaving porn around or forgetting to log off porn sites might not be the way to go. If she doesnt like things like that, you may find yourself consigned to the spare room instead of getting a `decent` bj. I know some women who find the taste of sperm disgusting and never want it in their mouths, so respect her wishes. If she enjoyed it and wanted to do this for you, ive a feeling she would be doing it without you trying to force the issue, so respect the fact that she does have a choice in the matter.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (5 December 2009):

Honeypie agony auntGive her the book "tickle his Pickle" and let her read it - if she wants to she will try something if she doesn't, you need to respect her.

As far as a BJ only being good if you cum in her mouth or on her, well you have seen to many bad porns. It's really not about WHERE the sperm ends up it's the work she put into it that MADE you cum.

Like one of the posters said, it could be you don't taste all that great, men who drink a lot of coffee, smoke, eat a lot of red meats can have a nasty taste to their sperm.

Oral is not for everyone. Respect that.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009):

Scared of what?

If she doesnt want to do it, she wont. Sperm tasted nasty, and you also get sticky. Offer to do it in the shower perhaps where she can clean off right away afterwards and also wash her mouth so the taste wont make her sick.

Perhaps offer to even taste it yourself?

Just try not to get sperm in her hair.. it's sticky stuff like I said, and would be very difficult to clean away. Perhaps not squirt at her face, but her chest.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009):

You have to give her very good oral sex first. I only started going down on my partner when he started giving very good oral sex. He would be really into it and enjoying it so much that it made me want to please him too. If she says she doesnt want you going down on her, tell her its for you not her. Or trick her like my partner did... Insist that you just want to see it up close and you won't do anything, then when you are down there, pin her arms firmly by her sides and dig your tongue' around in there. I guarantee you she will go down after a few sessions of this.

Next step is to leave a hardcore porno lying around, one that features only one woman and one man and leave it ready to play on the part when the woman is giving the man oral. Hide it 'poorly' then she will discover it. You will be in big shit for a few days but when you have 'the talk', tell her you are sorry, but its just that you want that with her and you had no choice but to get the porno. When she watches it in disbelief while you are at work or whatever, she will become aroused by it and be more open to the idea.

Final advice, visit www.Collegecallgirl.blogspot.com/2007/11/blowjob-tutorial

you can either suggest she visits the site or you again, 'forget' to log off. This is the best site I ever read on how to give a blow. My man never climaxed during oral for 10 years until I applied the instructions from here.

Remember, it is all about giving more than you are receiving. If you are being sensitive to her needs, being patient and giving good oral she will dive on your piece. If you get home, put your muddy feet on her table and expect to just unzip your pants and get it, you will be waiting forever. Give and you will get. Always let her climax first and she is yours!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009):

what is your definition of a decent BJ?

for her to let you come in her mouth or on her?

I'm not being nasty, but how does it make it any better?

The fact that she made you come means it was decent.

Plus, ask her what she is scared of. I'm 15 and I've given a BJ to my current boyf. And no i am not a slut because he was the only person I have done anything like that with. And thats as far as i have gone with him.

There is nothing to be scared of. Is it the taste? The embarrassment?

You need to ask her and find the source of the problem and talk to her about it. Reassure her.

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