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writes:I masturbate a lot, and it has always been a fantacy of mine to masturbate in front of a woman. I tried to get my wife to watch me, but she thinks I am disgusting. I even tried to let one of her friends catch me masturbating, but it turned out bad. I fantacise about her wanting me to masturbate in front of her friend(s), and masturbating in front of a room full of girls, like a bachelorette party. Is there a way to find women who would like to watch me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): You masturbate a lot, and want your wife to watch, but she thinks you're disgusting.
Now not knowing anything about your wife, I wonder what she might find distasteful is the way in which you go about getting her to participate. If you just want to masturbate in front of her without any input to be attractive to her and make her feel sexually aroused about this fantasy - and perhaps more of a case, unzip the snake charmer and stroke away in the cold light of day, with an onlooker, regardless who she may be ( so it seems) then may be you need to change the way you go about it.
It makes me wonder what the rest of your sex life is like, how long you've been married, has she stopped finding you attractive full stop, how good are you at pleasing her, not just in bed, but other ways too, foreplay in and out of bed, treating her as a woman, not just as a wife who you expect from...there are so many possible issues here, and not just the obvious one, that she doesn't like it.
To risk your marriage by hoping some family friend catches you is NOT good, nor a healthy fantasy, as this fantasy is creeping into reality. Take it into reality, then you are committing an offence, and as someone said, it's indecent exposure....and somewhat creepy and tacky!
Whatever, you need to deal with this, with your wife and your wife alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): i love it when my boyfriend does it, i find it a real turn on, so its weird how she dont like you to do it, although i guess everyone has different views, she is one of them.
you could go on web cam chat to women around your age if they want you to, but if i was you i wouldnt do that because you are married and thats basically cyber cheating. maybe you should just keep it as a fantasy :) or just try and explain to your wife that it aint all that bad and she should give it another go, she might end up liking it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): and for the record, i dont see why your wife has a problem with it...i think it is pretty darn sexy. but im not your wife, and i dont think you should do it in front of someone else. mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): If this is a real question, then you are addicted. If your addiction leads you to do this without consent it is a criminal act, indecent exposure. You are old enough to have amassed some standing in your community, have a job, older children and network of friends. Don't trow every thing away by holding onto this addiction. It is rather creepy, not that you masturbate, thats normal but that you want to have it observed by persons outside of your marriage. Don't look at porn it stokes this creepy fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2010): Dont fulfill this one unless its with your wife. If she cant help then it needs to remain a fantasy. Every fantasy is not meant to be fulfilled...thats why they are called fantasies. And i hate to say this, but you sound just like the guy who has been harrassing me for the last year...only 20 years older. Please for the sake of all the women involved here, just stop. your wife's friends do NOT want to see you im pretty sure. If they did, they would have looked you up...because trust me word gets around. just please stop...mal
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reader, veronika  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 One of the main issues with this is that your wife finds it disgusting. Is she anti-masturbation or something?Although I feel your wife is being closed minded about watching you masturbate, it is often the case that what goes on in your head may have to stay there, because sometimes it's too much to ask that people partake in your fantasies when they don't want to.Masturbating in front of your spouse is feasible for most. Masturbating in front of her friends or others may be a bit confronting for her if she's closed off to masturbation.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (4 July 2010):
 Wow....slow down.
You are MARRIED! If you do this act in front of other women then I'm sure your wife would consider it cheating.
Please talk to your wife and explain how you feel.
Cheating is NOT the answer and will only lead to pain, distrust, and loss of respect. You might even lose her. So STOP and figure this out with your wife.
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