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*oneybunny
writes:ive been seeing this guy for a month, we met on match.com. We hit it off right away, i was surprised.Well he told me after a few days that he really liked me and that he wanted to see were we could go.So we both agreed that we both only wanted to date eachother.Now, we live about an hour from eachother but we both have pretty flexible schedules.He does have four children which he gets joint custody of, that doesnt bother me i also have a child.But lately i just been feeling some distance,i tex him and it takes him a long time to answer or he doesnt at all.Its only been like this ,these past couple days he does have the children for the holidays,but i have been in many bad relationships so im very insecure.What do i do ? I like him alot, when were together its great its when were not i start to worry.My friend thinks its because in just want to settle down,that i dont care with who,but i know what i feel.He has warned me that when he feels very overwhelmed in life he tends to push people away,but because of past relationships i cant trust my instincts anymore , i really need help
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 Hey, I get where you are coming from. I do think this guy really cares about you. Sometimes, when things do not go our way, as women we tend to imagine many things. Half of these things tend to be true and that is why i try not to discourage others from trusting their instincts.
I believe that your friend/guy is probably caught up with stuff. As you mentioned, he has four children, plus work and other activities so he may not always be available. So, don't feel inseccure or scared that he has ran off with another girl...I am sure he is busy thats all and he would call as soon as he can. If you want, you can send little texts to let him know what you miss/think about him and pay little visits. Even though past relationships have not worked out, it is not the end of the world. You just have to have faith and get back up when love knocks you down!
Hope I helped :)
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