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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I miss my ex, and its been over a year and I have been with a few girls. She has a boy friend which she has been with for 8 months now and well we have tired to remain friends. And well its been alright I guess, we still do somethings together. She was the one who broke up with me and wanted to remain friends with me. I am interested in other girls, and well I do feel connections with them and have in some cases gotten close to dating them, but generally I end up not dating them due to lack of connection or overall interest in them. In recent time I have been having dreams about my ex. I have also grown to miss her, and well its not the sex, its nothing more then her presents in my life and the things we use to do. Its just recently we have reduced our talking quite a bit and have not seen each other for about 3 months now. Thing is we have tired to see each other we either cancel, be it her or me. She wanted to go work out together, but I worked (I'm busy as hell). Then we have tired three times to get together, just for coffee. Then well the final time was something which we both would enjoy, it was a walk with our dogs, she canceled the morning of, 2 hours before we were suppose to go for the walk. Its not the first time she has done this, I'm fine with it sorta, but its kinda getting annoying because I feel like her boy friend might have his finger in this(He is the jealous type, which she wants her guy to be). She has complained to me by the fact that she has no friends and that she makes males friends really easily(I have known this for years, even when we dated I would usually hang around with her every once while with her male friends to make sure they knew who was her man).But again I think I am looking to deep into this. The last time we tired to talk, over 5 days ago, she was really busy and well my friend had asked me to go to lunch and was leaving she kept on saying how sorry she was, since I was trying to talk to her and she was not able to talk.I don't know what to do, its hard on me, and well I know I am easy target because I still care for her and if I care for someone I usually let things slide. Is she taking advantage of me? Am I over thinking this? Is there anything I should do differently?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): i personally do not think she is using u. I mean not by anything u stated. if thats ur only question..i do think if i may, you should tell her how u feel.. you sound like u want to be with her again. i knw shes in a relationship now but why did she break up with you if u dnt mind me askn? and is it a reason that could of been worked on..does she knw u care about her the way u do? i knw im askn alot of questions but im just sincerely tryn to help if i can..but nah i truly dnt feel she's using you..
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