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*arzi
writes:I'm 23 and in love with a guy 30 years older than me.we lived together for 8months and had the best memories and I never felt that way with any young guys before.It was like a dream for both of us(he would always say It's too good to be true).he was separated from his wife for almost 12 years and was living alone.the first day we met he said I'm very single and I answered I'm so lonely...I can call it chemistry the way we could match and feel like we are in heaven.but for some reasons I had to leave his country and go back to my family which is 10 hours away by plane.and now I'm here with my family for almost 6 months and every single moments I think of going back to him.but my mum says there is no way to let you leave us and because I almost got disappointed of her tried to settle here and make a new life here so I met a nice guy who is 28 years old and our relationship got serious very fast and we engaged and all families are involved...but I could not stop thinking and calling my boyfriend in another country,and I was feeling depressed about marring this young guy.there was no attraction from me toward him.when we were together I was feeling like I'm out with a teenager(not only him but any other guy in my age make me feel this way).so I decided to go back to my educational place and again live with him.Now I'm guilty about 3 things:1.saying NO to this young guy who really treated me nicely and did everything to please me.2.leaving my mum without saying goodbye.3.loving a man so much older than me.please please pretty please help me with my twisted situation
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reader, marzi +, writes (10 February 2010):
marzi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlet me correct something that has been mistaken.I haven't left yet.I just said:'I finally decided to leave'
but I feel so confused and don't know whether to leave or not.
thanks:)
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reader, marzi +, writes (10 February 2010):
marzi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou mean I leave first and then say goodbye to my mum?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): hello dear,
you should not guilty of yourself. you love him and age does'nt matter in love. but u have done 2 wrong thing thats y u have to correct yourself. just explain the boy of your current situation and tell him that u will always be his frend a true fren and call ur mother as soon as possible. as she has given birth to u she must be very worried. and tell her also about your feelings. i think she will understand. and dear age in love doesnt matter.and i know u love him alot as u go back to him leaving your family and the boy of your age group.just carry on and Share everything as how r you feeling to your man. and keep loving him
all the best.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (10 February 2010):
 Hun, I think that the guy you met when you went home just filled a void in your life but your true love was the older man.
To make amends write a letter to the younger guy and explain that you really did enjoy your time with him but you are in love with someone else and being in a relationshiop with the younger man would have been unfair to him as the older man was always on your mind. Tell him that he is wonderful and will make a wonderful husband for someone.
Contact your mother, whether by phone or letter and pour out your heart to her.. love is a very precious thing and I am hoping that your mother married for love and will understand how you feel about the man you have run away to be with. Dont isolate yourself from your family, they are very important to you and will be always be your family no matter what happens.
So what if he is a lot older than you, he loves you and you love him and if you can truely say that you will still love him when he is wrinkly, no teeth, drools, is bald [need I go on??] and if that answer is YES - then go and be with him without guilt...
Honeygirl
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