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writes: Hi, I have a problem and a habit i know is natural but i just think is disgusting. I masturbate but keep telling myself i will stop but give in to it in the end. I know its natural and it does not cause me pain i just want to stop it all together. I find it sick but keep doing it and also know one day someone will catch me doing it but that is not why i want to stop. Can anyone tell me how i can stop doing it? Reply to this Question
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reader, shan21 +, writes (28 December 2006):
 you are a young male who's tring to discover your inner desire maybe you watch stuff on television that makes you want to do this like masturbate and when you finish something is telling you this is wrong well that's just your guilty conscience and the masturbation will probably happen until you are sexually active
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006): Hey Mr. Boy Anon, let me give you my PoV in relation. I don't feel completely comfortable telling anyone this in public, especially since I don't keep my identity anon, but for your sake and others of similar dilemma... 8]
I started masturbating when I was 5 years old. Oh yeah, but I didn't know what it was I was doing until around 8 or 9. Starting high school, I did it a lot more frequent, but I also hated it. It added to my depression every time I finished. Later on, in my senior years in HS, I realized why I felt gross and depressed by it. It was because it made me feel ugly and unwanted. Though at the time, dating within the students weren't 'popular' or common, the few and the stories and such made me feel exiled. Masturbation felt great, but psychologically, it also fed my thoughts of being 'left-out'.
Mind you though, after I left HS, and tended to my worldly 'duties', depression after masturbation gradually faded away, as I improved on my mental solidity, started dating, having a few relationships, going out, further creating myself, etc. Masturbation in HS was like a temporare 'high' to avoid the pains. Masturbation now is more like just to give myself a quick buzz with no psychological setback.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2006): Hello, I am not sure why you would be disgusted with your habit unless you are feeling like it is too frequent or out of your contro.
First off, is there someone who has made you feel ashamed of your body or of sex? Do your parents shame you alot in this area?
Because it is nothing to be ashamed of, and your hormones are really raging at your age so it is just something that you need to do for release.
This urge will subside with maturity and a settling of your hormones....if you still feel very bad about it, please talk to someone a doctor or a therapist or counseler or older adult relative other than your parent who you trust that can help you sort out your feelings about this...Someday when you are older, you can take what you have learned about pleasuring yourself into a new relationship with a real live girlfriend, and then you won't feel so bad about experimenting on your own, it is safe, you did not hurt anyone else or run the risk of getting a girl pregnant, or run the risk of getting a seuxually transmitted disease....noting to be ashamed of in that don't you agree?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): Your right in assuming that its normal for you to do it and even though u might not think so some girls do it as much as guys. Ur veiws will change when your hormone levels drop when u get a little older.
One thing to remeber is that when you do get older you may find it esier to control yourself with ur gf if u do mastrabate.
If you want to stop the best thing to do is to distract urself or hang out with people or in places you know ur not going to do it. As long as your not constantly thinking about doing it you won't.
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reader, Evangeline  +, writes (26 December 2006):
 As you get older, most people tend to masturbate less and less as their hormones which are very intense during puberty tend to calm down and settle at the right levels.
The best thing to do when you get the urge to masturbate is to try and distract youself from it as much as possible, you could do this by playig a video game or hanging out with brothers/sister/friends etc - somewhere you know your not going to masturbate!
It is also important to know that your views towards sex and your body changes as you get older and more mature - you will probably find your views on this will change and if not you will find your own, effective way of dealing with it.
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