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writes:i feel life is very unfair the way things are .the goodlooking /cute ,girls get good jobs,good freinds,a fair share of boyfreinds,good exams ,there have figures .goodlooking /cute people are lucky .i try very hard and i get no where.i have no job,no freinds,no social life,never traveled,never had a boyfreind and 29 yaers old and neve had my first kiss.i am so sad and pathetic.
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reader, samsmommy  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 Ok, of course if you go around acting like you're sad and pathetic, you're not going to have any friends! Who would want to hang out with someone like that?!?! People want to be around other people that lift their spirits and are happy and fun to be around. You definitely need to change the way you're thinking.And if you look at it from a different point of veiw, one of the reasons cute girls might have a lot of different bfs is most obviously because of the way they look, but the first thing most of the guys think is "lemme date her so I can get in her pants". They usually don't care about the girl or even genuinely like her. So it's just as hard for the cute girl because while she does have guys asking her out, she's gotta sort thru the bad ones and find the good ones, which can be a difficult task. And as far as cute people doing good on exams, what?! That is SO not true. Appearance has absolutely NOTHING to do with your IQ.You need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, even if you have good reason to, because that's going to get you no where. If you need a job, get up right now, put on some nice clothes, do your hair, and get your resume ready. Go to every single store/restaurant etc and apply, even if you don't think you'll get it, apply anyway. Ask to speak to the manager, introduce yourself and express how much you would love to get the job, and trust me that manager will not forget your face or your name. First impressions are everything, and when that manager looks at the applications put in that day, you will stand out as the one that took it a step further than just applying, and taking 5 minutes out to talk to the manager could be one of the things that land you the job.As for friends, most people's friends are their friends thru work or school, so that should get sorted out when you get a job. Hope I helped :)
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 Well, aren't you just a bag of sunshine and happiness? Isn't that a lovely positive way to talk about yourself? I'm sure that attitude has people banging down your doors...
Do yourself a favour- adjust that attitude. I don't know who lied to you and told you you were ugly...
I'm sorry Cinderella, no prince is going to save you from this one. You have a very self distructive belief that you're not pretty. No body can save you from the enemy now because the enenmy is yourself.
And if you can't love yourself how can the rest of us? STOP feeling sorry for yourself and get proactive. The statement that looks have anything to do with proffesonal success is bollocks. You're looking for something to blame for your sense of failure, something other than your lack of initiative and in the meantime are ruining your self esteem and defeating yourself.
Stop it
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