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writes:Well fo starter I'm 14 and in Year 9 at the moment.But, I have the most gorgeous and amazing maths teacher ever! I love him so muchan can't keep him out of my head. We have a good laugh together and he is a great teacher. Anyway, A few weeks back I wrote a heart in my book with his initials in it and forgot to rub it out, so when he marked our books he saw it! He asked me about it and said whoever wrote it make sure they stop it!I was planning on going to tell him that I wrote it and how I feel about him because it's unbearable now.I kept on meaning to tell him but I got scared almost every time and walked away. Now, in school my Head Of Year asked to speak to me because this teacher is worried about me and he wants to speak to me.What do I say? What do I do?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (29 November 2009):
 We did advise you to do nothing that would get you in trouble. I'm sure you wish you had taken that course now.
Okay, you have to tell your mother the truth. "Mum, I have a crush on my maths teacher. It was such a strong feeling that I actually wrote him a letter and that got me sent to my Head of Year. I am deeply sorry for causing all this commotion and I wish I had not done what I did, but I did, so now I have to face the consequences. I apologize to you and to the Head." Then let her ask questions, and answer them. Honestly, she was a teenage girl once and understands better than you know what you are going through. We all had feelings like you have described; it's just most of us didn't do anything about them.
I think you should not try to communicate to your maths teacher in any way other than in class. If you could try to see it from his perspective, the situation he is in is not a very good one. Here is a student who has written basically a love letter to him and his job is now in jeopardy. He is under scrutiny, he is being watched, he may wind up losing his post there if anything else occurs. You MUST leave him completely alone; do not try to communicate with him. What you have done could have serious repercussions for him. I expect your Head of Year had some advice for you; what did he say beyond coming to see him once a day to let him know how you are doing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell now I need more help!I tld this teacher how I felt bout him in a letter which I let in his desk. He showed thi to my Head of Year and he spoke to me about it. He told me to go and see him every day to see if I have had a good or bad day etc. He has also told me to tell my mum about everyting that has happened. How do I tell her? Do I apologize to my maths teacher for the letter?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice xx I have a bigger problem now. I wrote a letter to this teacher saying how I felt and he showed it to my Head of Year. My head spoke to me and asked me to tell my mum over the weekend!! How do I tell her? And do I apologize to my teacher for the letter ? xxxxx
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reader, rose the relationship solver +, writes (25 November 2009):
 your so young many girls have had crushes or fell in love with teacher i did but nothing will happen gaurantee it because teacher puil is not good he could lose his job i know that...its hard but just say it was a joke and u forgot to rub it out and tyer an put ur feelings aside for both urs sakes
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 November 2009):
Actually, you have more than one chance in life. Life is about timing and in this case, you are just born too late for him. If he's that attractive, believe me, you are not the first girl to get a crush on her teacher.
It's what you do about it that matters. What do you do? You do nothing. Yes, that's right, nothing. You leave it alone, because you are growing up and are smart enough to recognize that pursuing him can only result in disaster. Disaster for him when he loses his job and his livelihood and has to throw away all his years of training because one of his students made it impossible for him to teach. Disaster when you are called up to the school Head's office and have to explain your actions and you wind up being humiliated and your parents told and perhaps having to transfer to another school.
So you just tell them you were idly doodling in your book and you apologize, you don't really know what you were drawing because you were just daydreaming about nothing, really.
Please don't cost a man his job. Just think if it were your father who was the teacher and had a student crushing on him--wouldn't that be weird? Same thing.
I wish you luck in your schooling; work hard and believe me, this kind of thing will be long forgotten when you reach uni.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): Wow, that must suck. Well, what I would do is just tell him how you feel. You only have one chance in life; why not take it? yes, you will be scared, but this might be your only chance to let it out. believe me you will feel a lot better. if you tell him, maybe he might help you with your feeling??
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reader, Blod +, writes (24 November 2009):
 This is a horrible situation and I'm sorry to be so harsh. I know it's tough when you really like someone but this is something you really need to get over. You need to stop feeling this way to save embarrassment for yourself and your teacher. Please don't tell him how you feel! It'll only make things awkward, especially for him. As a teacher, he can't have any kind of relationship with a pupil and telling him how you feel will make things difficult and awkward for him no matter how he reacts.
You need to move on from him. You know nothing would happen as it'd be illegal. He's a grown man with a professional job and you're a 14 year old girl. Teaching you is his job. He's paid for it at the end of the day.
I'm sorry for being so harsh but you really need to set your feelings aside. You really need to stop feeling this way. I know there's no switch but you'll have to try your best.
Sorry. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): Nothing he probs finds it amusing -you are so young xxxx
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